Guest Author - danielle barone
Develop inner talk that is kind. This is important for your health and well-being.
Talk to yourself in your mind the way you would talk to a good friend. Positive inner talk is an effective mental habit for bringing peace to your mind.
If you are dealing with negative people in your life, there is a chance you may begin to talk to yourself in the same negative tone they talk to you and to the rest of the world with.
If you are like most of us, you probably have an overly critical person in your life. It can be anyone. Most of the time it begins with a parent. And there is a good chance that you continue to criticize yourself even as an adult. You continue to hear and feel critical voices in your own mind. This is only normal.
What we learn in childhood we tend to think is right in adulthood. But you must realize this is unhealthy for you to continue doing. Criticising yourself does not help you to grow and move forward. This is also a painful way to be.
We could spend years trying to figure out what makes someone critical. My guess is people like that are raised with a lot of negativity and that is unfortunate. But you are important right now in this moment. My concern is you.
It is my hope that you will learn to trust a better way of being. A healthier way. One that will help you to feel good and not bad.
If you put yourself down in your own mind, it is important to realize this is happening and stop immediately. Do not allow the negativity of another to spill into your precious mind. Do not see yourself through the eyes of someone who is negative, toxic or mentally ill.
The key to stopping this kind of negative version of reality is to first realize and understand what is happening when a negative critical person influences your thinking about anything, including you. It is then important to begin the new healthy habit of overriding their negativity with your own positive kind words to yourself.
If you have trouble doing this at first, picture a good friend in your mind and envision their calm voice talking with you. Talk to yourself in the same kind way. If your inner talk is supportive, your outer world will begin to reflect this back to you.
I like this mental strategy because I love my friends and would never dream of ever being negative with them. So it's easy for me to imagine myself talking with them in a positive way. I have also found this to be a very healing exercise.
Remember that negative mental talk will only hold you back. Is that what you want for your life? I know that is not what you truly want.
If you have children or are around children you should always practice a healthy habit of talking to them in a positive way. Forget criticism - it does not work. Criticism does not help anyone to be happy or healthy.
Positive calm inner talk will help you to become strong and peaceful on the inside. Positive inner talk will help you to live a healthy life and move forward towards all the good things you want for your life.
Positive inner talk will help you to be a better person, one that others want to be around, one that other people want to love.
Positive inner talk will help you to see the good in other people and feel genuine love for them as well.