No matter what continent you live on a woman’s greatest asset is her physical beauty. The more attractive a woman is the easier her life will be and the more people will love and admire her for no other reason than she is physically attractive.
The ugly sister syndrome results from being in a close knit community such as a home, workplace, school setting, or neighborhood where a group of girls or women have developed a collective image as a sisterhood and one of the women are considered to be less attractive than the other women in the group. The sisterhood can be a biological sisterhood as well as friends, coworkers, or any group of women who spend time together consistently.
The ugly sister is typically the one who is asked to dance last. The Ugly Sister is the one who guys just typically want to be friends with. She is the one who is told how beautiful the other women in the sisterhood are. When people see that they have hurt the Ugly Sister’s feelings with their comments about how attractive the other women are—they will say, “oh, you are pretty too” to the ugly sister out of guilt or embarrassment. The ugly sister is used to being ignored altogether or playing second fiddle, so she develops an inner magic and tantalizing charisma that compensates for her perceived lack of physical beauty in comparison to her sisters.
The ugly sister is most likely to feel insecure about herself when she is young because she is compared to her more attractive sisters. However, the table turns as the sisters age because the more attractive sisters will have a more difficult time accepting the sociological reality that they are not the hottest woman in the room; whereas the ugly sister will have grown to become even more confident with age.
The ugly sister will have learned a long time ago to accept her body as being a unique element of her physical and psychological persona. Some beautiful women are psychologically traumatized when their superficial, physical beauty fades with wrinkles, sagging breasts, crow’s feet and other signs of aging.
Sometimes the ugly sister is the most creative, intelligent, outgoing and courageous of the sisters because she has learned that this is the only way that she will ever get noticed. Because the ugly sister rarely ever receives public praise and compliments about her physical beauty; she learns early in life that she is psychologically free to accomplish her dreams and walk the unbeaten path of her soul's journey. She doesn't have to answer to anyone-- because no one is calling her to tell her what to do; what to say; or how to look.
The ugly sister learns to live from the inside out as opposed to living from the outside in like her beautiful sisters. The unexpected lesson that the ugly sister learns along the way is how to truly love and accept herself for who she is. The ugly sister embraces her unique beauty and knows that the only opinion about her physical appearance that truly matters is how she feels about herself.
The ugly sister builds her body image, self worth, and self-esteem by consciously taking the time to define her own standard of beauty and rules by which to play the game of life. She relishes in the stealth power of unexpected beauty that takes society by surprise. She attracts the loving man who didn’t notice her when he walked into the room; but after talking to her, he realizes that she is the woman that he can’t leave the room without wanting to get to know her better.
The ugly sister is the tortoise, Cleopatra …Queen Elizabeth I. The ugly sister typically has the highest level of self-esteem amongst her sisters because her opinion of herself is the root of her self-image. The beautiful sisters are more vulnerable to seeing themselves through the eyes of others; their praise as well as their disapproval.