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How to Handle the Stress of Betrayal

High profile stars, Jennifer Aniston and Sienna Miller have made the headlines with titillating captions as victims of betrayal. They are the innocent victims of their cheating husbands and the media. Their personal stressful experiences are compounded each time they are brought into our eager-for-gossip living rooms. That is the nature of fame or infamy. However, what about all of us plebians who have experienced betrayal and do not have the resources the stars do to get over it? And why are we so hurt when our trust is betrayed?

Letís turn the concept of betrayal around. What really hurts is that we do not trust ourselves. When we are betrayed, we feel that we can no longer trust our own judgment, intuition and self-confidence; that our ability to discern is flawed. We lose our innocent and optimistic perception of others. We live in fear of being vulnerable again and therefore hurt. And to be honest, we must assume responsibility for the betrayal Ė otherwise we are victimized again. We have the power to choose to be hurt or not. Is there life after betrayal? You betcha!

It is a good beginning to stand with our shoulders back, our heart open and our feet rooted in the earth. This posture aligns our body, oxygenates our brain and de-stresses us. When we walk tall as we meet and greet, our physical posture sends a message to our brain that we are proud in our special contribution, open-hearted with compassion and strong in our body alignment to distinguish between toxicity and positive energy, case by case.

In order to trust again:
Debbie Mandel, MA is the author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media.
To learn more visit: www.turnonyourinnerlight.com

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