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Don't Try So Hard to be Happy

If you are on a quest for happiness, give it up because you will end up miserable. Happiness is a personality trait determined by your genes and slightly influenced by your environment. Only 17% of the population claim to be happy all the time. You can recognize these people by their attributes: Bubbly, positive and energetic. They handle rejection well and move on to the next person or project. They are innately able to reframe their stress and let it go. And these cheerleaders can really get on your nerves! I know that first hand because my husband and children would greet me in the morning, ďBack off; itís too early for your cheerfulness!Ē I am one of the 17%!

Where do you fall on the scale of happiness? You can be joyful with some moderate worrying, joyful and always worrying, minimally joyful and predominantly worrying, or plain numb. There are many possible combinations.

Donít think that searching for happiness is always good because negative people have a lot to contribute with their reality check. Consider that if you are too happy, nothing further will be accomplished. You will not be motivated to improve and grow. There is an important relationship between destruction and creativity, failure and triumph. When nature or human nature destroys, we get into gear to rebuild to withstand the next onslaught.

Therefore donít get disheartened by the illusive search for happiness. Instead, aim for satisfaction and gratitude. Are you satisfied with the meal you had? Do you appreciate the beautiful day and the walk in the park? Do you appreciate the phone call from your friend? Here are some concrete suggestions to apply to your activities of daily living to accept where you are and to flow with whatever life conspires against you. Be prepared when it does:

Debbie Mandel, MA is the author of Changing Habits: The Caregivers' Total Workout and Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more visit: www.turnonyourinnerlight.com

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