Guest Author - Kristina de la Cal
There are many different stages of dating ranging anywhere from casual flings to serious relationships. Sometimes people begin dating casually but as they spend more time together and get to know each other better, the feelings may gradually evolve into something a bit more serious. The tricky part is being able to figure out if, when and how to move from one stage to another.
If youíve been dating your partner for some time and noticed that your feelings have reached new depths, itís possible that you could be making an emotional transition from like to love. Falling in love is usually an exhilarating and terrifying experience all rolled into one. It requires a certain level of vulnerability that can prove to be uncomfortable for some. Luckily, however, the joys of being in love are almost always worth the risks involved.
So what is love and how do you know when youíre in it? Itís nearly impossible to answer either of these questions with any reasonable degree of certainty. Love is one of those powerful emotions that most everyone seems to recognize but no one can really explain in a definitive way.
If you think you may be falling in love with your partner but arenít entirely sure, consider how your feelings have developed since the two of you first began dating. What, if anything, has changed? Do you find yourself wanting to spend more and more time with your partner? Do you feel like he/she brings out the best in you or that your life would be incomplete if he/she were not a part of it? If your knees get weak and you feel the flutter of butterflies in your tummy every time your partner is around, then love is very likely in the air.
Since it takes two to tango, ensuring that you and your partner are on the same page with regard to the status of your relationship should be at the top of your priority list. Though you should already have a pretty good idea of how he/she feels, itís important to keep the lines of communication open between you and let your partner know exactly how you are feeling. Then as a couple you can make decisions about if and when to take the relationship any further. Do keep in mind that in love, there are never any guarantees. Hoping for the best but expecting the worst is a good strategy to use especially where matters of the heart are concerned.
Remember that no two relationships are created equal. There is an endless combination of ways in which two people might interact. Due to its subjective nature, there is no way to predict the precise point in a relationship when like becomes love. Sometimes it happens early on and other times the seeds of love require a bit more patience and nurturing before they blossom. There are those who believe in love at first sight and those who are so guarded that they never fall in love at all. The healthiest approach to love would probably fall somewhere within the happy medium.
When it comes down to the wire though, the only real way of knowing when like has blossomed into love is by listening carefully to the rhythm of your heart. If your partner has you dancing to a new beat, you can be relatively sure that cupid has been working his magic!