Guest Author - Julixa Newman
This article is a tribute to the bond between twins, as well as a plea for all twin moms to begin feeding that bond from the start. As soon as I found out I would be joining the MOM group, I began to pay a lot more attention to twins, both young and old. I used to have mixed feelings about siblings so old still spending all their time together, but after seeing my twin girls bop each other regularly on the head to hear the ensuing crying noise I changed my view. I admire my twins a lot. I have two other children, but I already know what it is like to be a child. Twins are enigmatic; do they convey thoughts to each other? Do they know from the get go that they were inside me, TOGETHER?
Itís not the same relating to an older brother or sister. The age difference creates a different perspective. Telling a younger sister to shake off teasing from a new pair of glasses wonít make them understand that in 2-3 years that type of thing wonít bother her. A twin has the same set of circumstances. Even if they canít make you understand, they can surely stand right next to you; and letís face it-there IS strength in numbers. Go ahead, see what teasing twins gets you!
I now see having a twin as a live version of the person I used to talk to in the mirror for inspiration growing up. Imagine your own private motivator that follows you around for life with the same perspective on everything. If I had a twin chirping ďyouíve got this, Iím right hereĒ in my ear, who knows what I might have done differently? As infants, we put them in the same crib to bond. As toddlers, they spend 3-4 years sharing the same toys and learning the basics of life side by side. How can they not be the closest of friends?
In my business, I meet a good amount of twins. I talk to some that are nonchalant about that relationship, and it just seems like some gave up the equivalent of an emotional ďlifetime lottery ticket.Ē Twins should be unconditionally motivating, supportive, and understanding. In my opinion, that bond should be cultivated from the moment they can hear voices. It will lead to them pushing each other to strive for excellence in everything they do. Everyone knows confidence breeds success in every walk of life. Not to mention, they may be exposed to things they hadnít otherwise if not for their twinís interest. Many people say a best friend is a gift to be cherished. I agree, and furthermore believe that a twin is a best friend elevated to the highest plane with unconditional love. Start that bond right away : )