Guest Author - Carol M. Olmstead
Every bride dreams of the perfect and harmonious wedding day, and you can help assure your beautiful wedding by incorporating a little Feng Shui into the planning. You don’t need to be Asian to add some Feng Shui magic to your wedding day, plus anyone can use Feng Shui to increase the joy and happiness of the occasion for you and your guests. From selecting the right date, to finding the right dress, to selecting the colors for the table linens, when you follow these simple Feng Shui guidelines you can help take the stress out of wedding planning.
Select the Right Date
Feng Shui believes that dates that ends in 8 or 9, or which adds up to 8, are the most auspicious.
Say Yes to the Off-White Dress
In Western countries, the bride usually wears a wedding gown in a shade of white. Feng Shui principles suggest that ivory, cream, ecru, and off-white are luckier than pure white because these are natural colors that represent the Earth Element energy. In Asia, the most auspicious color for wedding dresses is red because this is the color of happiness. A Western bride could add a pop of red somewhere, like in your wedding bouquet or hair ornament. If you choose a gown that has been worn before, make sure that the energy you receive from the previous owner is positive.
Find Complementary Colors
Certain color combinations are considered to be more auspicious than others in Feng Shui, so choose the colors for your attendants' dresses, flowers, table linens, and wedding cake decorations carefully. The combination that is most harmonious for the bride and groom is the traditional black and white, because it relates to the balance of yin (female) and yang (male) energies. Some positive Feng Shui combinations for a wedding scheme include yellow and red, green and blue, purple and green, red and pink, and metallics with yellow or blue. Avoid paring red with metallics because this is considered unlucky in Feng Shui. Choose table linen colors representing the Earth Element, like honey, olive, or cocoa to ground the energies of you and your guests and reduce any stress.
Pick the Right Flowers
Choose flowers for your bridal bouquet and centerpieces that have meaning. For example, peonies represent longevity, chrysanthemums mean happiness, orange flowers symbolize prosperity, tulips bring sensuality, and roses symbolize love. For centerpieces, include a branch or something representing the Wood Element to symbolize growth of your union.
Pick a Harmonious Venue
If possible, choose a location for your wedding celebration where you can see beautiful gardens, flowing water, or rolling hills. If your wedding is inside, make sure the venue has a high ceiling and that there are no heavy beams, which would symbolically weight down on the occasion. Holding your wedding outside will attract lots of positive chi, especially if the location is near gently moving water.
Round Out Your Table Shape
The best Feng Shui shape for a table is round or oval, which encourages harmony among the guests. Rounded shapes will make the conversation flow easily and make your guests feel more relaxed. It’s best to avoid square or rectangular tables because their sharp corners could create conflict.
Make sure your venue is well-lit, and decorate with crystal glasses and candlesticks to reflect even more light. If your location has crystal chandeliers the reflected light will double the positive chi for the occasion. Add crystals to your dress, veil, and shoes and the extra sparkle will chase away any negative chi.
Remember Something Old, Something New
Many Western brides follow the tradition of wearing “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.” Feng Shui believes that if you follow this tradition, be sure you receive these items from a friend or relative who is happily married so they will transfer their positive energy to you.
If you are looking for a wedding present for a special couple, one of my favorite gifts is a set of wind chimes, especially these Woodstock Wedding Chimes that are tuned to Pachelbel's Canon, a favorite melody for many weddings.