Guest Author - Suzanne Gregory
Some people may have never realized that many women choose to memorialize the memory of their terminated pregnancies. Some also choose not to, and that's fine too, but with crisis pregnancy centers increasing and ultrasounds being performed before abortions more and more, it is becoming even more common. Here a just a few ways to remember your loss, whether you are pro choice, pro life, or somewhere in between.
Candles- Candles come in a huge variety of shapes, colors, and sizes and can even be personalized. Many infant loss websites sell personalized memorial candles or you can choose to personalize them yourself. You can buy labels and personalize them with your printer or have them printed inexpensively by many sellers on Ebay. You can also choose a variety of tacks, brads, and pins in many shapes and colors to make your candle extra special and all your own. When your candle burns down you can remove them and affix them to a new candle.
Jewelry- There are also many options in jewelry. You can choose to go with a gemstone that is significant for you, or a specific charm. Birthstones, angels, shells, crosses and butterflies are all common and beautiful choices.
Memory boxes- Many women who choose to memorialize their baby also choose a box to keep their special things together. It can be made of paper, metal, wood, or plastic. Decorated or not. Something as simple as a shoe box decorated with pretty paper is often perfect. You can choose to keep your records, sonogram picture and special trinkets, jewelry or mementos inside.
Yard decorations or lawn ornaments- Statues, benches, stepping stones and flowers or trees are all great ways to memorialize a loved one. You can also chose a bird feeder specific to a certain species of bird, or decorations like solar lights, gazing balls, or wind chimes.
Poems or letters- Either written by you or special to you are great ways to let out your feelings and emotions in a way special to you. They are also great to keep in memory boxes.
Naming- Choosing a name can often be a cathartic and healing release for women grieving their loss. Some women choose both a first and middle name and some only choose a first. Either way is great. It all depends on what makes you feel best.
These are just several great ways to memorialize the loss of an abortion. There is no right or wrong when it comes to choosing a method, several, or all. It's all about what fills each individual woman's needs.
I hope I was able to help in the healing of someone today.