Guest Author - Tracy Hamilton
It is always a challenge for a woman at the beginning of a relationship, she wants to let the guy know how much she likes him; so she can tend to over give, and takes on the masculine role.
From the work that I do, men reveal that they love to chase the woman they are attracted to. If they like you; they will let you know. When we chase them they miss out on that, although they may be flattered; they would rather be the one doing the chasing.
It goes back to their genes. Men like to chase, and win the prize that no-one else could get. It makes them feel good about themselves. We can let them know we are interested by our actions, then sit back and let them do the chasing; if they are interested.
Life works through attraction, and deflection. If someone is in harmony with you they will be attracted to you, like a magnet. If they are not a vibrational match, no matter how much you want it to work; you will just not come together in harmony.
When a woman is in her feminine energy, she can be powerful through her vulnerability. Being honest about how you feel, and who you are, are very attractive qualities to men. You show that you are comfortable in your own skin, and that you are not desperate for a man ‘to save you’.
It can be more challenging when you feel ‘less’, and incomplete without a man. This can cause you to grab at anyone that you come into contact with. It is not uncommon for some woman to make every guy they meet ‘the one’. However, that is just wishful thinking, and grasping at straws.
Sometimes it is useful to put your self in a situation where you need to tell a guy how you feel about them as a way of moving forward, and to know if there is a chance for you to be together.
For example, if someone is around you, and seems to be flirting but not taking it any further; it may be necessary to seek clarity from them. This can be done in honesty and vulnerability; and not in the vein of ‘chasing’ or desperation.
Can you see the difference? One can be masculine and threatening, while the other is more open hearted, and done in the spirit of gaining understanding.
Rest assured, any man will tell you if he likes you; and he will do whatever it takes to let you know.