Guest Author - Kristina de la Cal
Parenting is inherently a taxing endeavor that demands an overwhelming amount of responsibility. In an ideal world, parenting exists as a joint venture wherein two loving, mature adults share in both the burdens and the joys of parenthood. Unfortunately, however, the real world is anything but ideal.
For single parents who are struggling with the endless and seemingly insurmountable odds with which they are continuously faced, it might help to know that they are in good company. There is certainly no shortage of single parents in American society. Whether due to death, divorce, separation or personal choice, more and more singles are tackling parenthood solo.
Though parenting alone may be a frightening prospect that is inevitably filled with additional challenges, it is a parentís willingness and ability to face those trials with courage and conviction that will undoubtedly serve as a powerful example for his/her children. It goes without saying that the best interest of a child is always the most important factor that a single parent must consider in every decision that is made, no matter how small. The words and actions (or lack thereof in some cases) of a parent will have a significant impact on a childís emotional development and as such, should be carefully thought out.
It is probably safe to assume that most single parents spend the majority of their time desperately trying to manage an infinite list of concerns and responsibilities. This grim reality often leaves little, if any, room to even so much as entertain the idea of getting back into the dating game. With all the added pressure and potential set backs that tend to accompany it, itís no wonder that dating can easily tumble to the bottom of the priority totem pole for so many single parents. Initially this is a good thing since newly single parents will need time to engage in reflection, self-exploration and adaptation both on an individual level and also with their children. When the time is right, however, the physical and emotional needs of a single parent will need attention and nurturing as well.
Once single parents feel comfortable with the idea of dating again, it is important to go about doing so in a way that will satisfy their personal wants and needs without jeopardizing their childrenís safety or sense of security. Being a single parent undoubtedly makes dating much more difficult than usual but not impossible. By taking a sensible and sincere approach, many single parents are able to establish and maintain a healthy balance between their family life with the kids and their desire for an active social life outside of the home.