Guest Author - Kristina de la Cal
Everybody has their own set of expectations when it comes to dating and no matter how difficult it may be to reach those expectations, the last thing anyone should ever do is lower them. I am here to tell you that what you want in a mate does exist, you do deserve it, and when the time is right, it will be yours.
In today’s fast-paced world of modern conveniences and instant gratification, far too many people are settling for second rate relationships simply because they aren’t willing to wait for the right one or because they may not believe that they can do better.
There is nothing wrong with being choosy about whom you will or will not open up your heart to. Lowering your standards may improve your dating quantitatively but it will likely not be worth the sacrifice you’d have to make on the qualitative level. Ultimately, only you can decide if quality is more important to you than quantity.
If you have had limited success in the dating arena and are beginning to wonder if perhaps you are being too picky, then it may be the case that you are simply being too picky about the wrong things. Before lowering your standards, analyze your expectations to be sure that they represent the actual qualities that you are looking for in a mate. If, for instance, you are only interested in finding a partner that happens to look good on your arm, then physical attractiveness will obviously rate highly on your priority checklist while you are shopping around for a new mate. If, on the other hand, you are interested in finding a partner who is more than just another pretty face, then it would make more sense to set expectations that revolve around character and personality rather than appearances.
No matter what qualities you might be seeking in a mate, it is up to you to set the bar that potential suitors will need to reach in order to win your affections. The best way to guarantee your own dating success is to set expectations that match your unique wants and needs. As long as you are being choosy about the things that are truly important to you in a relationship then you shouldn’t allow a dating slump to tempt you into lowering your standards. Being picky might slow down the process a bit but if it leads you to the partner of your dreams then the wait will be worthwhile so keep your head up, your expectations high and your hopes even higher.