Guest Author - Celestine A. Jones
Shyness is often a result of negative feelings of oneself. A weak self image coupled with a disability can be overcome with developing new social skills. Social skills can improve through following a few steps.
Practice makes perfect. It is easy for some to socialize with others without feeling anxious. For others, the thought of talking to others become paralyzing. The best way to overcome this feeling of shyness is to create opportunities that allow talking to new people.
Start off the task of communicating slowly. This can be as simple as saying hello to others at the grocery store or school. Become accustomed to being friendly with others. Try new things and make small accomplishments. This will build self confidence, resulting in higher self esteem.
Every person on this earth is unique. There are no two people alive that are exactly the same. Each person is special in their own way. Build self-esteem and self confidence by changing your perception of yourself. Look in the mirror and speak to yourself. Tell yourself that you are special. You are beautiful. You are a winner. You will begin to believe in yourself as you speak words of empowerment to yourself. If you have ever spoken to yourself in the mirror, you already know that this is not an easy task. You will see yourself as others see you. Believe in yourself and keep practicing.
Mirror time can also be used to practice facial expressions and body language. Some people wear their feelings all over their faces. Be careful about what your body language says about you.
The ability to communicate with others becomes easier if you share common interests. This will take your mind off of what others think. Talk about common interests. For instance, if you share the love of movies, discuss the newest upcoming show.
It is never too late to learn social skills. Children, as well as adults, can benefit from improved social skills. As interaction with a variety of different personalities occur, it will become easier to interpret the feelings of others. Over time, the feeling of shyness will become easier to cope with, resulting in a healthier self image.