Guest Author - Chinedum Ify Obikili
Making Communication Priority!
Open communication remains the best way to keep your home closely knitted and every family needs to make good communication to priority. Most often we erroneously believe that because the family gathers together at the table to share a breakfast of dinner is communication enough. It is beautiful to share a meal with your family no doubt, but when the occasion is so formal that everyone keeps to his thoughts and the only noise you hear is that of spoons clashing against plates then you honestly cannot call that communicating with your family. What is communication? Communication means sharing, giving and take taking, talking and listening. Communication is not you handing down general information or updates to your kids or merely giving them instructions. Communication means sharing your thoughts, concerns, or even information on whatever project you may be working on at a particular time with your family after which you encourage the other members of the family to do the same, and you listen attentively when they do. When you encourage your kids to talk about themselves and whatever it is they are either doing at school or on their own, overtime they grow to trust you with stuff personal to them. In the process of this sharing, you get to understand what is going on in everyoneís life at every given time. If your spouse is going through a rough time, you get to know about it, if any of your kids are having personal problems or problems at school, you also get to find out. Important to note, communication is not you being judgmental. Even if your kid tells you something you donít agree with, be very careful not to openly criticize him/her. The moment you do that, you would destroy the connection between you. He or she begins to hide issue they feel you wonít approve of, and you really donít want that to happen. Here are some benefits of open Communication with your children:
1.Your kids are more drawn to you. They feel a deeper sense of security because they know they can tell you anything. And because they know they can share their worries with you, they have more confidence in themselves.
2.Your teenage girl for one, may disclose her personal concerns to you. She may not come out directly but youíll get to know if she is having personal worries.
3.You get to find out if your kid is being bullied at school
4.You get to finds out when you child has begun to hang with the wrong crowd