Guest Author - Tracy Hamilton
Are you finding it challenging to meet someone? It seems that many people are using the internet to find love these days through the many dating sites, and have many people ‘on the go’ as it were, that they no longer have to try to meet people when out and about.
Have you tried online dating? Was it a good experience for you? I know that many people would prefer to meet someone more organically, but are finding it increasingly difficult.
Instead of staying in waiting to meet someone to do all the things you are dreaming of doing with a partner, join clubs and groups that are of interest to you. Start to live the life that you love and want, which will then put you in touch with like minded people with shared interests.
When you have your own interests, hobbies and friends you are more appealing to a potential mate, rather than someone who is waiting before really engaging in their own life.
Putting your life on hold until you meet someone, is not going to bring you a potential partner. Instead, make a list of what you like doing, where your ideal mate would spend their time, what they would be doing on the weekend and start acting from there. Go to the gallery, or game, or concert and you will be surrounded by other people will similar interests.
If you would prefer not to go alone, take a good friend with you, and be available to talk and smile with others. Strike up conversations in queues, or at the bar, or on the train. Wherever you find yourself try engaging with people; whether you like them or not.
When you talk to anyone for the sake of it, it acts to boost your confidence around new people. Speak to males and females, show an interest in them and listen to what they have to say. Ask questions and be present with them.
Joining clubs and groups that are active or creative allows for sharing and connecting with people, while being involved in an activity. It can be an incredibly bonding experience. Sharing experiences can also deepen bonds and friendships with others, without the pressure of being on a date.
If you've been in a long term relationship and have just found yourself single again it can be daunting to start dating again. Finding the best way for you that is non-threatening and feels the most natural has got to be a good way of putting yourself at ease instead of being completely out of your comfort zone.