Guest Author - Chinedum Ify Obikili
Sibling squabble is nothing new to parents, especially parents with daughters close in age. This of course does not mean that siblings whom are boys do not have their squabbles as well. It is important though that parents pay attention to siblings squabbles to know when their kids become serious rivals. While I encourage parents to address issues of rivalry in the home, I must also say here that parents must be careful how they deal with this as this is a very sensitive situation. Here are some ideas on how you can handle siblings' rivalry or squabble in your home.
1. Donít be quick to interfere: Sometimes it is good to let your kids settle their differences themselves, especially if these kids are teenagers. By so doing, you will be giving them the opportunity to handle themselves responsibly. The reverse would be the case if you always jump into their every argument. They will think you still consider them kids and trust me, every teenager these days wishes to be treated as an adult.
2. Donít be quick to take sides: Siblings will fight, disagree, argue, and do all those other things children do that challenges our patience. There is nothing abnormal about this. But however way you choose to settle your children's dispute, never take sides. Not even if you feel one of your kids is always at fault. Clearly there would always be one of your kids who will give you extra challenge. You are not doing you or that child any good by always emphasis on his/her faults at the face of every fight. Doing so, would only give birth to resentments on the part of the child who is always at the receiving end. Children, who grow up feeling like the second best, will get into different harmful behavior, either to spite you, get back at you, or get your approval.
3. Keep your family close: Find ways to get your family closely knitted. Some of the ways you could do this includes praying together, the power of praying together as a family is immeasurable. Aside keeping you all together, prayer also gives you the quickest solution to challenging situations in your home. Another way to keep your family close would be to spend lots of time with your kids, create fun activities for the family, or do anything that pulls the family together. Once you have a closely knitted family, it will be difficult for your siblings' squabble to progress into anything unhealthy; it will also make dealing with these disagreements easier.