Guest Author - Chinedum Ify Obikili
I feel the need to talk to our young daughters here. Peer pressure comes in different ways. A young girl who seriously needs her boyfriend to admire or love her, would easily do anything he asks her to do. I’ve come across some really weird relationships in which guys use emotional blackmail to get their women to do their bidding. Now if your boyfriend is making you do things you ordinarily would not do, or things against your wish, here are some truths you need to know.
1.Will he love you more? The answer is No. First of all, if your boyfriend makes you drink, smoke, or even uses you to peddle drugs,he has very little respect for you as it is. For whether he’d love you more for doing his bidding, that’s not going to happen, and the reason is simple,he doesn’t even love himself. He is an addict. Addicts seldom love themselves. They’re usually filled of self-hate, frustration, depression the moment whatever they are on wears off. So yea, to him, you are as wasted as he is and should he sober up a bit, he’ll move on to a decent girl. You will be left ruined and alone.
2.He will discard you when you become a burden. It doesn’t matter that he makes you feel like you are the center of his world. He’d as soon discard you like he will an empty wallet the moment he stops getting the things he used to get from you. This he’d do without a single thought to all the sacrifices you may have made, including rebelling against your parents of course.
3.He will exploit you: Every wrong crowd you keep exploits you whether you realize it or not. A bad boyfriend will do same. First he’ll introduce you to couple of bad behavior or habits which you may not even be aware of at the time. You will begin to do things you don’t do before, lie to your parents and adults around to cover up your tracks, your progression in evil will continue until you are neck deep into addictions of all sorts. Remember, an addict needs to fuel his addiction. You may become his little thief, stealing from your parents to give to him.
Finally, if your boyfriend makes you do stuff that are out of character, he is clearly not a good boyfriend and you are better off without him.