Guest Author - Stephanie L Watson

Now that you're divorced it's time to celebrate your freedom. Stop thinking about the what ifs, should haves and could haves. Now is the time to think about the future. You now have your entire life before you. What are you going to do with it?

You are free to do whatever you want to do. Want to go back to school? Want to start a New Career? Want to start your own business? Want to work from home? What do you want to do? Now that you are divorced you no longer have to check with anyone else about what you want to do. You can consider only yourself and what you want to do.

You're now likely thinking, if you have kids, but I can't, I have kids. I want you to remember this saying that I heard once from Dr. Phil. “You teach people how to treat you.” This is such a true statement and one you should take to heart especially when it comes to your children. Every single day, every action you make they are watching. They are learning how to treat you. If you do not put yourself first, why should they?

Now is the time to assess your life and revel in your freedom to choose your own path in life. Get out some paper and make a list of goals for your life. Write out some goals for the next six months, the next year, the next five years, and beyond. Do not worry if other people believe your dreams are pipe dreams, and it doesn't even matter if you succeed at every goal, what matters is that you are dreaming up a new life.

Once you have your list check the entry for the first six months and evaluate whether you're on the path to success for that first entry, if not, write down some steps that you must accomplish to succeed in your first goal. Break them down into weekly and daily activities that will lead towards your goal. Then start following those steps each day.

Let go of guilt. Guilt is a wasted emotion. What is done is done. It is time to move forward. Soon it will all become a habit to just do the right thing for yourself without feeling guilty about it. You've lived in a marriage long enough that held you back. Now you're free. Take your freedom.