Most of the literature that is currently available on spiritual intimacy seems to operate under the assumption that only Christian couples can achieve this type of intimacy. While a strong sense of faith in God is certainly an integral part of the process for those who follow Christianity or related faiths, it is by no means the only path toward spiritual intimacy. It therefore seems necessary to clarify that despite some rather common misconceptions, it is quite possible to lead a spiritually rich life without having to subscribe to any specific religious order. With that said, I would like to offer some suggestions for developing spiritual intimacy with a romantic partner and it is my goal to do so in a manner that will ideally prove useful to anyone regardless of creed or lack thereof.
In my personal view, striving toward spiritual growth is an ongoing process of self-discovery and enlightenment that serves as a powerful source of meaning and sense of purpose for those who venture down its path. If you would like to deepen the level of closeness between you and your partner, consider the following tips for ways to enhance spiritual intimacy.
- Make mutual commitments - In order to cultivate spiritual intimacy between you and your partner, you should begin by making a commitment to one another that reflects a willingness to respect and support each otherís spiritual development. Be loyal to each other and to the soul searching process, which is such a vital component of spiritual growth.
- Spread the spiritual wealth - Much like with other types of intimacy, spiritual intimacy cannot flourish without a solid foundation built on trust and open communication. Talk openly, honestly and frequently with your partner about the spiritual issues that matter to you most. Even though spirituality is a very individual experience, sharing the fruits of spiritual pursuits with your partner will deepen the connection between you. Discuss personal revelations and debate any potential doubts with your partner so that you can both work toward reaching new spiritual heights together.
- Do good deeds together - Doing selfless deeds for others is a rich source of spiritual growth. Brainstorm with your partner on ways that the two of you can work together to help those in need and improve the community in which you live. It is a win-win situation for everyone involved.
- Make time for reflection - One of the best ways to develop spiritual intimacy with a partner is to practice reflection exercises together. Put aside some time each day when you and your partner can practice meditation, pray together, or simply reflect on spiritual matters while in each otherís company.