Guest Author - Stephanie L Watson

A positive divorce may seem like an oxymoron but, the truth is, some people should divorce, and the results of that divorce can be nothing but positive. Even if the divorce is painful you can have a positive divorce if you and your soon to be ex decide to.

Some things to remember if you are getting a divorce:

You are not a bad person because you are getting a divorce -

People in all walks of live, all faiths and traditions, get divorced. Very good moral people get divorced, it is a natural occurrence in a society where long life is the rule rather than the exception. Divorce has been happening since marriage existed.

No one has to be at fault to get a divorce -

People can get a divorce just because they are no longer in love and are not happy. There never needs to be fault assigned to one person or another. If the two of you agree to divorce, legally, no fault needs to be assigned. Even if there is a reason such as cheating for the divorce it can often speed healing just to file the paperwork as no fault, or irreconcilable differences. In fact in most states that is your only alternative.

Children do not have to suffer because their parents are divorced -

Children will react to the divorce in expected and unexpected ways but mostly how they react can be traced to the attitude of one or both parents. Approach the divorce and explanation to the children in a positive way, reassure them that everything will be okay, and they will likely be relatively unscathed compared to if you create a lot of drama surrounding the divorce.

Co-parenting in a positive way is possible after divorce -

When the parents put the child's needs ahead of their own pain and desires the children can still enjoy having two parents to raise them. Many parents, all over the world, co-parent their children after divorce. One key, if possible, is to try to keep the roles that were during the marriage the same after divorce to avoid confusion.

You do not have to spend a lot of money to get divorced -

Collaborative divorce allows people to get a divorce by hiring one attorney and working with that one attorney ( a collaborative divorce specialist) to come to agreements that make sense for the family without punishment, anger, or pain.

You can make it on your own and have a good life -

When you consider how many people get divorced today you will quickly see that most people do not die due to divorce. Most people manage to make good lives for themselves. It can be the beginning of a whole new wonderful life, if only you are open to it.

When you put all of the above into perspective the answer becomes clear. Yes, you can have a positive divorce if you want to.