Guest Author - Caroline Henrich
Yesterday Tiger Woods advised that the answer to whether he and his wife Elin Nordgren would stay married was a private matter between them. While media analysts agreed, it did not stop them from discussing Woods' press conference, his marriage and indiscretions.
Many people think that since Tiger Woods capitalized on his self made image as a family man, he deserves the scrutiny. Others believe that even with his fame and money, he and Elin Nordgren should be left to decide whether their marriage can be salvaged.
There is no doubt the decision whether to divorce is emotional, highly charged and life changing. Many people engage marriage counselors and psychologists to assist them in determining whether they can work through issues and save the marriage or whether they should progress to divorce.
People often rely heavily on friends and family to offer advice during this difficult time period. Women and men seek input as it relates to finances, children and emotional well being.
Very few people are able to make the decision to divorce without consulting others. At the end of the day, the decision has to be made by one or both of the persons involved. This is because the marital relationship is one of the most intimate relationships that exist.
Divorce is permanent and very personal. Hopefully, the two people involved will be able to reach an agreement as to the outcome of the marriage. In some instances it is not reasonable to expect a joint decision when one person wants a divorce and the other does not.
Domestic violence situations are certainly separate situations where often times, it is important for the victim to have support of family, friends and professionals to ensure the victim exits an abusive relationship.
While it is unrealistic to expect full privacy when making a decision to divorce, the ultimate outcome should involve the two people affected.
Certainly, few people will have cameras, reporters and millions of observers interested and involved in the outcome of their marriage, as is the case of Tiger Woods and Elin Nordgren. It is important for the two people in the marriage to have privacy when making this decision. This does not mean family and friends should not be supportive and available when needed.