Guest Author - Vannie Ryanes
Politics can be ugly. Worst than that, politics can be appallingly rude. We all heard one female politician say that another married female with children had never worked a day in her life. Of course this was untrue, this particular female/woman/mom/wife was a stay-at-home mom doing what these moms do. She was taking care of her children, her home and her [politico] husband.
As we know, stay-at-home moms are often under appreciated. When I hear someone, especially a male say his wife or mother is the glue that keeps the family together and running smoothly, his value as a husband or son becomes solid gold with me.
Everyone understands moms who work 9 to 5 outside the house can suffer from burnout and may need to take a few minutes for themselves. However, they are not the only ones who can have a meltdown, stay-at-home moms need those same few minutes for themselves as well, perhaps even more so. The fact is stay-at-home mommy's often put themselves last. Forget about taking work home. These women cannot "come home," because work and home are one and the same; and there is no 9 to 5 work day schedule, it is more like 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Stay-at-home moms often do not take an lunch hour or 15 minute break, it does not matter how tired they are or how much rest (or adult company) is needed. While much of what mom does at home, is meant to make her children happier and healthier, there may be no time or energy left to make mom happier and healthier.
After the first flush of new motherhood passes, women who have left the workplace, may be surprised at how much they miss their colleagues, their paycheck and the sense of accomplishment they may have had at work. If they had a job with authority or were assigned projects and praised for completing them well and on time, they might miss that. Be assured, no matter how many times mommy washes the dishes, do the laundry, bathe the baby or read to the kids, many of these things will never truly be complete or finished because "mom" will always be "mom."
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