Serious relationships are an incredible thing. The bond that forms can be so strong that you can feel like you are two halves of the same person. While this feels like a very special thing, it can result in either person losing them self to the other. What should you do to make sure that this doesnít happen? How can you maintain yourself when all you want to do is spend time with the other person?
Find hobbies that you enjoy and make time for them. Spending time on developing your skills at things that you enjoy is important. Even more so if these activities arenít something that your loved one enjoys. Donít let yourself only do things that the other person enjoys. Dropping activities that you used to love is a sure way to lose yourself to another person.
Make time for your friends. It is great to make friends with your partnerís friends. You also want your loved one to enjoy time with your friends. But make sure that you still have solo time with your friends. They will appreciate that you still make them a priority.
You donít have to lose your time with them. There are various ways to spend time on your own interest without losing time with your significant other.
- Scheduling: Schedules donít always line up. Spend time on your activities when the other person is busy with things like work or taking time for their own activities.
- Enjoy together: Learn to love each otherís activities. Even if you donít love them, putting in an effort to enjoy the activities that they enjoy will allow you to spend time with them, and vice versa. When they are willing to try to learn to love the things that you do, you can enjoy your activities without losing time.
- Split up and reflect together after: Schedule your activities at the same time. You will be losing the minimum amount of time. After, you can meet up and tell each other all about your experiences. Bonus: The passion that comes through when talking about what you love is always attractive to others.
Donít compromise your views or preferences. So many people avoid conflict in their relationship by compromising things that are important to them. Political and religious views can be a source of great conflict, and sometimes these conflicts end up being avoided by one person changing what they believe, or at least claiming that they have. Donít allow yourself to do this. If conflicting views cause arguments, you will have to figure out a way to work around them, not change them.