Normally, we don’t consider an egg, caterpillar, or pupa, to be beautiful. It’s the dazzling butterfly that lures our attention. We must give up our need to control and surrender to our animal nature, letting ourselves be overtaken by transformation. Change happens in stages.

Studies show that a shift in happiness has occurred: Men have cut back on unpleasant activities and relax more while a woman’s "to do" list has increased with less time to do everything. The obvious question: Why can’t women relax more, the way men do?

We have it all, but don’t know what to with it. And now Thanksgiving is almost here and many of us feel compelled to feel thankful. Why then do we drive ourselves crazy overloaded with chores and tensions concerning a holiday of gratefulness?

There are two basic impediments to making new friends. The first is our fear of rejection. The second is not as obvious as the first, our need for instant gratification. It´s not easy making friends anymore or is it?

Halloween celebrates deception, costumes and masks, which disguise who we are. However, are we wearing a disguise or revealing an internal truth, a fragment of our personality we have suppressed, the shadow side? Here are some popular costumes and what they might reveal about you:

In order to tune into him you need to observe what he tunes into on TV. The programs he watches on TV will help you figure him out because while he is absorbed in TV, he does not have his guard up or act defensively.

Why do we get so angry at the other side, unable to accept a different opinion? In order to be right does someone else have to be wrong? The real power struggle in the mommy wars is within the self.

One of the most basic steps on the pathway to happiness is forgiveness. Holding on to grudges, entrenched in being absolutely right, we doom ourselves to living in the past while poisoning our present. What is really bothering you: That someone hurt you or that you allowed yourself to be hurt?

I just returned from a whirlwind TV news station tour out West, five cities in five days. When you travel for business or pleasure and your schedule is hectic, don’t let yourself get depleted. Here’s what worked for me:

Has the word "but" been creeping into your statements? I am happy, but. I gained weight, but those holiday meals. I would exercise, but I’m tired.