Guest Author - Dominique Jordan
Without trust you have nothing! More than likely youíve heard this phrase mentioned somewhere before. No matter where youíve heard it, itís absolutely true. Trust is an essential part of any relationship, whether that relationship is between friends, relatives, or even two people who are dating. But how do we establish trust? Is it something that just magically appears out of nowhere? Can we even wish for it?
As much as we would like for it to do so, trust isnít something that can just be pulled out of a hat. Itís something that must be acquired through careful consideration and mutual respect. Once you have trust, itís safe to say youíre on your way to establishing a healthy relationship with another human being.
If youíre a bit unsure of how to establish a sense of trust and compatibility between you and someone else, or if youíre afraid of losing someoneís trust, donít give up just yet! Follow these simple steps below and youíll find your way to discovering a path to trust.
1.) Be Considerate of Others
Having consideration for the welfare of another person is absolutely essential to gaining someoneís trust. How can you show consideration? The very act of being considerate can take place by doing a favor for a friend, sending a greeting card, or even just simply asking how someone is feeling.
By being considerate you show the other person youíre thinking about them. If someone knows that youíre thinking about them and have the best intentions for their well-being, then they automatically know they can not only trust you, but respect you as well.
2.) Respect The Feelings and Wishes of Others
Respect is probably the most important factor in gaining someoneís trust. The Queen of Soul Aretha Franklin wasnít kidding when she famously sang the song ďRespectĒ all those many years ago. She even took time to spell it out, which just goes to show you how serious she was about getting her R-E-S-P-E-C-T. The message back then is still the same all these many years laterórespect for yourself and respect for others is very important.
When thereís no respect, there canít be any trustÖand if you donít have trust, then you donít have anything at all. Respect is the most important factor in establishing trust with another human being.
There are many different ways of showing respect. But the most important way is to just simply have consideration and treat someone else the same way you would like to be treatedówith care and compassion.
3.) Donít Turn Your Back on Someone Who Needs Your Help
Having compassion is another great way to establish trust with another person, and thereís no greater way to show compassion than to not turn your back on someone when they need help. A friend of mine named Jessica once told me about an experience she had years ago with someone she once considered to be her friend.
Jessicaís friend was named Samantha. Jessica and Samantha were the best of friends. As a matter of fact, they were almost inseparable. They did everything together! They attended the same classes at school, gossiped for hours on the phone when they were apart, and they even went on double dates.
One day, Jessica really needed Samanthaís help. Jessicaís puppy had taken ill and she didnít have any way to get to the veterinarianís office. Her car had broken down on the way and so, desperately in need of assistance, she called her friend Samantha on her cell phone. Samantha picked up the phone and when Jessica told her about her situation and how much she needed help, Samantha simply told her without any explanation that she didnít want to help her.
Feeling both hurt and disappointed, Jessica hung up the phone. She was confused. She didnít know why Samantha had turned her back on her like that. Luckily, a kind man in a blue Ford pickup drove by. Seeing that she needed help, he graciously carried her to the vetís office. Jessicaís sick puppy was finally healed, however Jessica and Samanthaís friendship hadnít. They never talked to each other again.
Samantha had betrayed Jessicaís trust by turning her back on her. Donít let the trust in your friendship become nonexistent. Itís important to be there when someone your care about needs you. Itís all about loyalty and loyalty is very crucial to developing trust.
4.) Be Loyal
Simply being loyal in any relationship you have with another person is absolutely critical to keeping that relationship alive. Loyalty is very much needed to having trust because without loyalty there is no trust.
In conclusion, itís important to have trust. You can establish trust in a friendship, with a relative, or even someone youíre dating. By having trust youíre paving the way to relationships with others that are both strong and enduring.