Hello,

My daughter is getting married next year. Her father and I are paying for everything, (reception, church, flowers, limos, engagement party, favors, entertainment, etc) except the photographer and videographer. If the groom’s parents chip in for that do I put their names on the wedding invitations?

We were going to do the traditional invite – Mr. and Mrs. _____ (brides parents) request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter ____ to _____ , without putting groom’s parents names on the invite. Is this tacky? Help.

Ewom

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When you said you are paying for everything except the photographer and videographer it gives me the thought that you think that because you are paying for more things only you should have your name on the invitation. It’s not tacky to have just your name on the invitation but do you want to offend the groom’s parents at the beginning of the marriage? If the tables were turned and you were paying for fewer aspects of the wedding, would you be hurt that you weren’t on the invitation?

Traditionally the bride’s parents pay for the wedding and have their name on the invitation but like many other parts of wedding planning, time changes etiquette. Now, it’s common to see both sets of parents on the wedding invitation (no matter who is paying for the wedding) and sometimes just the bride and groom are on the invitation (no matter if they are paying for the wedding entirely or not).

You will have many holidays that you have to spend with your son-in-law’s family so I suggest you just add them to the invitation so everyone can have a special part of the big day. It will probably make your son-in-law happy as well.

Happy planning!

Thanks for writing,
Victoria

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