A patron god or goddess is a particular deity we feel an affinity for that we choose to honor as the main influence in our lives. Many Pagans believe that all gods and goddesses are representations of the one life force. Others believe that each deity is a god in their own right. Regardless of which philosophy you ascribe to, having a patron deity can be a powerful way to interact with the divine in ourselves and creation.

I have heard many Pagans say that they did not choose their patron. Instead, they were chosen by their patron and sometimes this choosing wasn't in the most pleasant of circumstances. Even the most self-assured Pagan can be a bit of a skeptic when it comes to a personal relationship with the divine, and it takes a hard thump on the head to get our attention. Of course, this isn't always the case, and the gods can enter our lives as gently as a summer breeze.

Aspects of the gods can be what initially draws us to them. If you are a writer and follow a Celtic path, then maybe the goddess Brigid, a goddess of poetry and inspiration, will be who you feel most attracted to. If you are a soldier and follow a Greek path, then Ares, the fierce warrior god, is who you feel is your protector and patron. Once you attune to your patron though, you will find that there are many aspects to their character and personality that you had not known of before.

Below is a simple meditation to become attuned to your patron god. It is written for those who already have an idea of who their patron is but can be adapted for those who are still trying to find theirs. Just use a representation of a character trait you are looking for. For example, a picture you have drawn or a poem you have written can be used if you are trying to find a patron to inspire your creativity.

Find a comfortable spot where you will not be disturbed for a few minutes. You may light a candle and incense and put on some music to help get in a relaxed mood if you wish. On a table in front of you, place either a statue or other representation of your patron. Start to concentrate on your breathing. You may find counting beats to be helpful for this. The four-count breath is a popular and effective technique. Inhale to a count of four, hold your breath to a count of four, exhale to four then hold to four. Do this for several breaths then stop counting and breathe naturally.

You can either focus your eyes on the symbol of your patron or close your eyes and see it in your mind's eye. Think about why you feel attracted to this deity. Ask the deity why it has chosen you. If you are meditating to find out who your patron is, try to focus on what characteristics in people you are drawn to. What are those personality traits you greatly admire? Accept the answers you receive and record them in a journal, preferably one devoted to your Pagan practice.

This simple technique can be practiced once or frequently to help you come to a better understanding of the relationship you have with the gods.