I was one of those little girls who rocked dolls for hours. I played house, I decorated elaborate dollhouses. Being a mother was my ultimate dream. I expected motherhood to come easily and naturally--the way it did for almost everyone I knew. Infertility hit me like a meteor. Nothing could seem so unfair, so random, so personally devastating. Whether you were a doll kind of kid or a playing with snakes in the creek kind of kid, you likely thought that a baby would naturally come when or if you were ready. Infertility was likely as much of a shock to you as it was to most of the other 1 in 6 couples who experience infertility.

The authors of "Unsung Lullabies: Understanding and Coping with Infertility" are personally familiar with infertility. Each of them has their own story of how infertility came calling and all are psychologists who work with others who are experiencing infertility. They offer real advice for understanding why infertility is so emotionally pervasive. The authors get to the core of the reason infertility is so painful--losing the ability to have a baby at will is also losing a part of our reproductive story.

From our earliest days we start to build a story about what our lives wil be like and what kind of parents we will be. Infertility strikes at more than the chronology of when we can expect a baby--it can make us feel vulnerable, alone and out of control. It can even change our core idea of who we are.

This is a must read for anyone who is coping with the pain of infertility. Even if you are still in the journey, this book can help you understand your reactions to this overwhelming condition.



Included are exercises and ideas for coping with infertility and healing your heart. An excellent resource for those experiencing infertility as well as those who love them and professionals who work with them.