Guest Author - Jontay Watson
I want to take a moment to talk about a subject that almost nobody wants to hear about but it concerns everyone. I want to talk about rejection. People who are HIV positive deal with this word almost on a daily basis. HIV positive people have the opportunity to be rejected by family and friends. The concepts that surround the virus make it difficult to get a break. The negativity, if not counteracted, can lead to rejection.
People fear what they do not understand. Most people do not understand HIV. The misconceptions about the virus lead people exist in a realm of irrationality. People often lean on urban legend and hearsay rather than get the facts for themselves. Once fear and ignorance come into the picture; you are no longer dealing with an individual person. You are now dealing with the beliefs of whoever the information originated from and their stereotypes.
If you come across someone who rejects you because you have disclosed that you are HIV positive. The first thing you must do is understand that the rejection is not personal. The individual rejected what they did not understand. This is where you can actually help them out. Offer them the facts so that they can make an informed and educated decision.
If they know the facts about the virus and have rejected you; again, do not take the rejection personally. They are not in a position where they can be with you and give you the support you deserve. Instead of being upset, understand that this is them admitting lack within themselves. You deserve someone who is going to be supportive and understanding of your situation. Someone who is not going to throw it in your face or try to use it against you. Someone who is going to date you the person not the disease that is within you.
Understanding that people may reject the disease is a hard thing to do. We as humans often want to internalize everything. But one of the key steps to living with the virus... One of the key facts to living period, is to understand that not everything is to be taken personally. Some things you have to let roll of you like water. Understand the lesson you are being shown and move on....
Get Educated.... Be Protected.... Stay ALIVE!