Guest Author - Traci Falb
No one is perfect. This is a phrase weíve all heard after weíve tried to do something but then failed. Someone trying to cheer us up will say, ďDonít worry about it, no oneís perfect.Ē This is true but it often doesnít help make us feel better. Iím here to tell you that as a mother, this phrase should inspire you to be more carefree and not worry about when youíre not perfect. In fact, the act of being imperfect is what makes a great mother, able to handle awkward and unstable situations while showing her children the art of resilience.
Accidents happen, sickness occurs and unexpected situations pop up all over the place. Moms try to be perfectionists and want every detail of their planned days and nights to go off without a hitch but that isnít always reality. Keep in mind that this is no oneís fault Ė this is human nature.
No two moms are alike so comparing someone elseís mistakes wonít help but try not to feel bad if some parts of your motherly duties get missed.
Women often feel guilty when they miss important events in their childrenís lives, either because of work or other obligations, but it doesnít mean your child is neglected. Having someone take pictures or video can help when you miss an occasion, so you can watch it later. You can also reassure your child that you are thinking of them even when youíre not there.
Children usually want more than we can provide for them so donít feel bad if there are toys or clothes that they still want. There are many places that sell lightly-used toys and clothes in excellent condition for a fraction of the price, either online or in stores. Some even take your items for cash so you can replace items they have outgrown without much expense.
Sometimes our lives get so busy that we intend to get things done but for some reason or another, important ideas get left for another day that never comes. Or unpleasant things happen as a consequence. Bills add up or donít get paid. Your employer disciplines you for taking too much time off. You plan to visit older relatives. You lose a job. You have a conflict with the school. You have a falling out with a neighbor. You want to go back to church but donít know how to start. You have a fight within your family. These things happen and are sometimes unavoidable bumps in the road.
To get through overwhelming situations just focus on one thing at a time. Know that you are not alone. Ask for help or take small steps. Paying just a couple dollars on a bill is a way to start. Writing a letter can be a good way to mend relationships or to contact someone. Donít worry if something is not perfect. Take a deep breath or take a break but keep moving forward, even if itís one baby step at a time. And donít feel guilty about things from your past.
A momís job is never done but as long as you love and care for your children the best you can, they will turn out just fine.