Guest Author - Elleise
When children begin demonstrating or talking about psychic abilities, it can be difficult deciding the best way to handle them. Learning how to listen is one of the greatest places to start!
In trying to keep a "low-key" around the house with my own abilities, I question whether or not this decision is a practicle one...
Friday evening after picking my daughter up from her father's house, in a tiny wisp of a voice she says, “Mom, I need to talk to one of those people who have an office that makes you feel better when you tell them things.” (Yikes!!!)*
For what felt like an eternity, I said nothing while wondering if it wasn't because of me, her father’s and my divorce, the home-front she deals with outside of this one or all of the above. Then I thought I should take my own advice and just listen!
She told me she felt she shouldn’t be sharing any of this with anyone because when she had tried, some of the "before and after" school workers told her it was evil and sadly, some, even discouraged children from playing with her.
She shared with me that during an out of state hiking trip there had been discussion as to which of two trails should be taken. Between path A & B, her opinon was path B, because a bridge was "broken" ahead. Although her opinion was ignored, she did what was expected and continued the hike. The group did, in fact, come upon a bridge which had been in tact, but was currently out, "broken." The incline was too steep so they had to turn back.
I asked her what happened afterward, she said:
“I told them I wished they would have listened to me, but they pretty much just stuck their noses in the air and turned around. No one would talk to me after that.” This can be a typical reaction from peers or even adults when they begin actively working with their gifts. They simply don't see anything wrong with what they are seeing or sensing.
In a separate scenario, she had tried to tell a woman driving her and her friends to the mall, that she felt, "danger...the kind that makes you stop breathing" she said. She didn't want to get in the car because she felt there was an accident down the road they were going to turn at. They did run into an accident and though none of them were hurt, she wondered if she had caused the accident or was responsible somehow for the people involved.
If your child comes to you with similar situations, trying to determine fact from fiction should always be handled by leaving the door open for communication. You may not know in the beginning what to believe but observing your child's demeanor along with the open talk will help tremendously!
Try not to "fill-in-the-blank" as your child begins discussing their experiences. Waiting for their description can often reveal simple similarities to a movie they might have seen in the past (like Indian in the Cupboard)but let them tell you.
An hour or two before bed spent in "quiet time" can provide a wonderful opportunity for reflective thought as well as even sharing a chore such as baking or cleaning. Anything that gives a one-on-one without making a bigger deal out of something than necessary, plus you'll have a yummy dessert or clean bathroom to boot!
*Should you feel strongly about taking your child through the counseling process, research personally through word of mouth, various therapists which can be time consuming but well worth the effort to avoid the possibility of stereotyped behavior disorders, unecessary or commercialized medication.*