Relationships with others are one of the most frequently requested readings, and there are a wide variety of relationship spreads in Tarot. The first thought is that these are all romance questions, but that isn't always the case.
Many times, people want to understand all types of relationships better, from familial to business. After doing readings for many years, I decided that I wanted to create an all encompassing relationship spread, that could be used to look at the deeper dynamics of any two people and how they interact with each other. This spread would work for any two people, in any type of relationship.
The result is the spread below. This spread can be viewed at Spiritual Guidance Tarot. The cards are laid out with the first three positions highlighting the querrent. Positions 4 – 6 focus on the other person and how they view the querrent and the relationship. Positions 7 – 10 focus on the strengths and weaknesses each person brings into a relationship. This makes it possible to work on more challenging relationships, by focusing more on each others strengths and learning to work with ones weaker areas. The final 2 positions deal with overall compatibility and where the relationship seems to be heading.
The Relationship Reading
Position 1: How you see yourself
Position 2: How you see the other person
Position 3: How you feel toward the other person and the relationship
Position 4: How the other person sees him/herself
Position 5: How the person sees the querrent
Position 6: Insight into the other persons feelings towards the querrent and the relationship
Position 7 & 8: Strengths & Challenges you bring to the relationship
Position 9 & 10: Strengths & Challenges the Other person brings to the relationship
Position 11: Overall Compatibility: Explores based on the other cards your overall compatibility, problem solving, communications etc.
Position 12: Summation: This card is an overview of all the other positions designed to pull the reading together and highlight courses of action and methods for improving or moving away from the relationship, whichever the case may be.
As you can see, this spread offers some very good insight into any relationship. Learn more about hidden feelings you or the other person may have, how to enhance each others strengths, while overcoming personal obstacles, and how compatible you are. Sometimes, all that is needed to make a tricky relationship better is some deeper understanding of the dynamics of that relationship. Other times, this spread can show you all the ways a particular relationship just doesn't work and lend insight whether it is time to move on.
My favorite aspect of this spread is the focus on honesty. Often we seek to lay blame for relationship difficulties squarely on the other person. “He doesn't understand me” or “She pulls away from me because she's cold”. This spread highlights the challenges both people bring to the relationship, because relationship problems are almost never a one way street. This spread lends itself to objectivity when one is willing to really view it with honesty.
I hope you will enjoy this relationship spread and give it a try. Feedback in the forums is always welcome.