Do you put your marriage first in your life? Many pastors and counselors are giving this advice to married couples, and I think that it is misleading. Sadly, marriage has become synonymous with duties and obligations to each other. I say, don't put marriage demands before your spouse's happiness.

A wise man once gave my husband financial advice that went: "If you pay attention to the nickels, the dollars take care of themselves." That can be said of marriages, too. Ensure the everyday little joys in your mate's life and the marriage will take care of itself. Those daily small but meaningful joys are what I put first.

Here's the latest article from the Marriage site at BellaOnline.com.

Putting Your Marriage First
This guideline was intended to prevent married couples from weakening their relationship when parenting duties threatened to consume them but a little clarity is needed. Too many couples misunderstand this well-intentioned advice.

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art36500.asp

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