Guest Author - Karen Ledbetter
As stated in my previous article, I strongly suspect there is incredibly more to this story than we know, possibly more than we will ever know. The more I learn about this story, the more discrepancies I notice, and the more bizarre the entire story becomes.
According to CNN transcripts, Allison Quets’ parental rights had already been terminated in a Florida court. However, for some reason, she had been granted visitation rights. Apparently the placement started out as an open adoption with visits throughout the year. At some point the visitation increased to several times per month, and Quets even had a home in the Durham area.
According to a CNN transcript from a January 3, 2007, segment on Nancy Grace, Quets’ boyfriend during her pregnancy (the twins were apparently conceived via in-vitro fertilization using donor sperm), urged Quets to place the babies for adoption with Mr. and Mrs. Needham, who are apparently related to him; and after signing the adoption papers, Quets and her boyfriend vacationed in Savannah. Apparently Quets’ continual demands made in court, at least in part, caused a judge to terminate her parental rights. According to the same transcript of a phone interview with the owner of the bed and breakfast where Quets and the twins were found, reservations for Quets and the children were made in early December. According to an article on Yahoo Canada, Quets had planned to spend at least three months with the children in Canada, living in a rented townhouse.
I have read where Quets’ family members and friends insist that she was gravely ill during her pregnancy and in the weeks following delivery. Okay, maybe so. But, am I the only one who noticed that she must have felt well enough to travel from Orlando to Savannah after signing adoption papers?
I really do not believe Ms. Quets is a monster. I do believe that in her own way she loves her children. Maybe she had their best interests in mind when she signed adoption papers, giving custody to Mr. and Mrs. Needham. Maybe she simply did it just to make her boyfriend happy. If so, then she chose adoption for the wrong reasons. Does this mean she has the right to waltz back in and demand that the children be returned to her? Absolutely not! Ms. Quets is not a teenager. She is a highly educated, middle-aged woman, and she should realize that adoption is forever. Once she signed the papers, she should remain committed to the agreement.
As for the openness in this adoption, I can’t help but wonder if Mr. and Mrs. Needham failed to set up proper boundaries. For an open adoption to work, there must be a mutual respect between the adoptive parents and the birth parent(s), as well as healthy boundaries; and the best interest of the children involved must be the number one priority.
It’s too early to tell yet what types of charges Ms. Quets will actually face and whether or not she will be extradited to North Carolina. No matter what consequences Ms. Quets faces, I truly hope that she will put aside her emotional needs and be selfless enough to let Holly and Tyler have a normal childhood with their forever family.