When the ground we walk on is clear and free of rubble, we can build a house, a garden, a playground that is safer to live on. It is the same with developing a stable home life, which is the basic ground of all our activities in daily living.

When kids have a stable home life to go from and come home to, the challenges they have to meet out in the world are lessened and seem more manageable. That's what stability around kids of all abilities provides.

It doesn't matter whether kids live in a single parent household, with both parents, blended families or extended families of several generations. What is important is that the home situation is free of physical, emotional and mental chaos.

Living in a stable home gives children that warm nest of nurturing that allows their ideas and talents to blossom into productive outcomes both at home and school. A stable home serves not just the children but the elders, too. Everyone benefits in a calm steady environment. Conversation flows easily, cooperation gets the chores done in an easy and efficient manner. Everyone shares to the best of their ability in making the home life nice for the group.

Kids can learn to contribute to making a home stable by doing their part, such as by using the manners they've learned, sharing with others, being polite in asking for help or favors, doing their chores as best they can, talking out and not hitting siblings or others at home.

Parents create a stable home life by practicing the very ideals they want the kids to embody, such as kindness toward each other, self-control, respect for each other's feelings and opinions, spending time really listening to each other. Also, it's important to do what's necessary to keep the family stable financially through productive work away from the house or supportive work in the home territory.

I like what Hilary Clinton said about taking a village to raise a child. We all need to care and support our own families while looking out for the needs of those in our communities. After all, as our kids grow and become productive members of society they will be faced with those who need their time and special expertise.

Creating a stable home life is so important to the proper raising of each generation of kids, because it is out of stability that we feel confidant to be the best we can with ourselves and others.

Article by Susan Kramer

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