Guest Author - Lori Phillips
a Love2Romance site
Loving Wives Club - $3.99/month
Holiday Romance kits - $45.99
A marriage becomes dull when all we do is focus on the daily grind. Yet work, kids, household maintenance, bills and social obligations top our priority lists because they are immediate needs. Romance and sex are luxuries for which we never seem to have enough time and energy.
RomanticMarriages.com hopes to lend a hand in this department. Colorful and quirky, this site is targeted toward wives who yearn for more marital relating but lack creative energy to work at it. Developed by April Sorbonne, its parent company Love2Romance is dedicated to strengthening marriages by helping couples “prioritize their relationship, demonstrate their commitment, and by promoting fidelity through encouraging healthy intimate relationships between husbands and wives.”
Sorbonne’s marital philosophy for wives focuses on what she calls the 4 A’s: Admiration, Appreciation, (physical) Affection and Attention. Having been married for over 18 years, she admitted that she lacked in one critical area, attention, and that had “taken a toll” on her marriage. Visit the site for more of her insightful thoughts.
RomanticMarriages.com markets two key products: the Loving Wives Club ($3.99 a month) and Holiday Romance kits ($45.99 only available for pick-up in Salt Lake City area; webstore now closed). The former is a monthly “romantic” download for you to print out and give to your spouse. It includes a thematic idea with a colorful card to print out along with romantic hints to help you carry out the theme. There is a free sample for you to view on the site. The Holiday kits come with thematic cards plus coordinating gifts and keepsakes that you’ll need for your romantic plans.
All Marriages Could Use Some Fun and Games
My husband and I are playful by nature, but we don’t necessarily play a lot anymore. He and the kids play on the computer. If I find time to play, it’s usually a Sudoku or crossword puzzle (they’re supposed to keep your brain healthy.) Could we benefit from RomanticMarriage’s Loving Wives Club cards? When I explained one of them to my husband, he wasn’t very enthused; but I wanted to give this an honest try in order to provide a fair review.
Armed with the hints from a romance card, I went out to the dollar store to buy a toy basketball hoop and I hung it on the back of the bedroom door. Not wanting to spend the money on a basketball jersey, I pulled on an old Cowboys football jersey instead, figuring it was the sports spirit that mattered, and then, I took off everything else. Earlier in the day, I’d given him his printed card that hinted about the ensuing “game” and the provocative line “You’ll score tonight!” He raised an eyebrow.
Living with adult kids makes it hard to plan a sexual rendezvous without grossing them out but that night they wanted to catch a flick and, feigning fatigue, we stayed home. Upstairs, I explained the rules of the game: sink three consecutive baskets and he “scores” - with me. He tossed the small sponge ball and it bounced off the plastic red rim. We laughed. He tried again. Missed. We laughed harder. Another try and another miss. Now, forget the sex, his pride was at stake. Finally, a basket! Like an adoring wife, I cheered. The second attempt banked off the door and rolled under the bed. Bending over and forgetting I only had on a jersey, I retrieved the ball. Now, he was seriously intent on sinking three shots - but to no avail. His third tries kept missing.
“Darn these blasted toys!” he blamed. Standing directly in front of the hoop, he began to aim carefully like a pro basketball player shooting for the winning points. Pretend ritual bouncing, two hands and a flick of the wrist. Miss. I sat down on the bed.
“Oh forget it,” I said, seductively raising the jersey high up my thigh. “C’mon over, Shaquille. You’re still my MVP.”
He kept tossing the ball at the hoop. “What is with this thing?” I turned on the television. This could be a long night. When he finally sunk three consecutive shots, I was half asleep. More frustrated than triumphant, he sat next to me on the bed. “Now I’m all sweaty and we didn’t even have sex. If I wanted this much frustration, you could have just rejected my advances as usual.” Maybe there should be an age limit or skill level on these cards.
You can’t put romance on auto-pilot. Romance requires novelty and The Loving Wives Club cards are novel. For a mere $3.99 a month, you can download and print out colorful hint cards to give your husband in order to build his anticipation of what fun and games await him. Another theme involves choosing different chocolates for various trysts. Choosing chocolate is something my husband can do pretty well, and I think any foreplay that involves eating chocolate is a winning idea no matter what follows. I like the creative, playful ideas most of all because I didn’t have to spend time thinking them up myself. A monthly romantic game could become a nice, anticipated change of pace around here.
The bottom line is this: You want more fun; he wants more sex. The Loving Wives Club cards build anticipation for both of you creatively and without any thought energy on your part. Although we didn’t have sex that night, I’ll admit that the romance cards reminded me that we do need to schedule more play time together – with or without the sex. And we definitely should practice our free throws.