Guest Author - April Alisa Marquette
Ever go to get dressed and nothing looks right? Perhaps you have a great haircut, but some days it doesn’t look exactly as you would like. What is wrong, you might ask. I'll tell you. Nothing; you could simply be experiencing the Every Woman syndrome. Ever hear the song penned by Nick Ashford & Valerie Simpson? The one that songstresses Chaka Kahn and Whitney Houston both made us dance to... I'm Every Woman. That song reminds us that it is all in us. Therefore, since we're comprised of many things, there will be times when we'll have to switch things up.
I have a cousin whom my Nana once spoke of. Nana was not disapproving when she said she never knew who my cousin was going to be -- from one day to the next. You see, cousin changed it up, she wore wigs. Perhaps on those days her hair exuded a mind of its own. Cousin understood that she needed to go with the flow.
Realizing that you are Every Woman [EW] is why you too can go with the flow. Being E W is the reason some women don’t wear same the fragrance everyday. Sure, an Ethnic Beauty may have her signature scent, the one makes people think of her when they smell it or something similar. That's the fragrance she chooses to wear, most often. However, you my Japanese oneesan, you my African-American sista, you my Hawaiian soeur, you my Latina chica, or you -- any one of my other lovely ethnic sisters -- may be feeling flirty and free. Wear a scent that will divulge this.
If on another day, you happen to feel subdued and pensive, why not wear that fabulous pair of spectacles you usually only wear when no one is around. If you feel heart-warmingly romantic on another day, wear a long flowing skirt, and too-hot-to-trot under garments.
When we as women realize that we are like diamonds, multi-faceted, brilliant, resilient, and oh so beautiful -- from the inside out, then we will better embrace our many sides.
If you normally wear your hair down, but one morning it lets you know it's not going to lay right, smooth it back. Try a sleek, classically elegant chignon. Wear it with that three strand pearl necklace you save for special occasions. I am going to remind you of something... Every single day that you are alive is a special occasion. Every day that you can think and comprehend, even minutiae, is a special occasion.
So what, it happens to be the middle of winter and you feel like wearing capris. Do what I do, rock them with a pair of boots. It’s your thing, because you -- remember -- are Every Woman. Go ahead; paint your toenails fuchsia, or fire engine red. Clip on a purchased pony tail -- the 'phony tail' is what some call it, but who cares?
Ethnic beauties you’re not in a rut. You're not stuck, not when you realize that you happen to be Every Woman. Read the New York Times on weekdays, not just on Sundays, if you choose. Re-think your investments. Start gathering information on that business you'd love to start. Don't leave it for someday. Every day is the perfect opportunity for the Every Woman.
Remember that little perfume jingle about bringing home the bacon and putting it in the pan, without allowing him to forget he's a man? Well perhaps you can make that your song. When you hum it, switch up the words -- to fit you, the woman you are today. Never forget that as women, we are like diamonds. We are multi-faceted, we have many sides. We are free, to be exuberant, or even spasmodically moody. The choice is up to us, because we are...ethnically beautiful. We are, like the song says: Every Woman!
