Guest Author - Lauren D´Silva
If you are frustrated, stressed, angry or harbouring other negative emotions the temptation is often to reach for comfort food or alcohol to suppress the feelings. Next time stress or negative emotions build try taking a ritual healing bath instead.*
You will need:
A bath tub and some hot water!
A handful of sea salt or pink Himalayan salt
Essential oils you enjoy such as lavender, geranium or rosemary.
A Rose quartz crystal (optional)
The biggest fluffiest bath towel you can find
A bath robe
A candle and matches (optional)
Body lotion or massage oil
A mirror (preferably full length, but at least big enough to see your head and shoulders)
Choose a time when you will be undisturbed for at least an hour. Unplug the telephone and put a ‘Do not disturb’ sign on the bathroom door if you need to.
Make sure that your bathroom is warm and run a hand hot bath.
Add a handful of sea salt or pink Himalayan salt and swirl in the water to dissolve. The addition of salt helps you release the energies that negative feelings create in your energy field.
Put the rose quartz in the tub if you are using a piece. Rose quartz carries an energy of love and compassion which will permeate the bathwater. It will not be damaged by hot water as long as you do not 'shock' it. So don't take it from a cold place and drop it into the hot bath, warm it gently first and place it down carefully.
Add just a few drops of a freely flowing essential oil such as lavender for relaxation, rosemary for purification or geranium for self acceptance and swish them through the bath water. (Avoid the heavier oils such as sandalwood as they will just form blobs that sit on top of the water). Less is more with essential oils, do not be tempted to use larger amounts. Omit essential oils completely if you are pregnant, you have sensitive skin, epilepsy or allergies. If in any doubt seek advice from a qualified aromatherapist.
Light your candle if you are using one and place it where you will be able to gaze at it from the tub.
Get into the bath and first let yourself have a good old grumble about your woes. Give yourself the first 5-10 minutes to let the frustrations, regrets, grievances, resentments, shame or whatever else you are feeling surface in you.
Now gaze at the candle if you have lit one, or just close your eyes. Focus on your breathing. As you breathe in say the mantra “I breathe in love,” on the out breath say “I breathe out negativity.” Say this simple mantra out loud if you can, or in your head if you are worried about being overheard. Repeat this breathing exercise for at least 10 rounds of breathing, do more rounds if you need to. You should find the negative emotions start to gently ebb away. Keep working with the breath and allow the emotions to flow out of you with your out breath.
You may find that anger or frustration transforms to tears. That is good, tears are a release, so if you cry just let the tears flow and don't try to stop them.
Once your emotions feel quieter and you feel more peaceful pull the plug from the bathtub, but do not get out yet. As you sit watching the water drain from around your body imagine that all the negativity you have released is being carried away down the plughole.
Wait until all the water has drained, then carefully step out and dry yourself on the biggest fluffiest towel you have. Be gentle and loving to yourself as you dry yourself, just as you’d dry a cherished child.
Now go to the mirror. Start by looking into your eyes. Say, “I love myself and accept myself just as I am.”
Work your way down your body, gently smoothing body lotion or massage oil into your skin. Say to each body part, “I love and appreciate you just as you are.” If saying that is too hard right now, just show your body love by caressing yourself with the lotion or oil. The more ritual baths you do the easier this self love and acceptance will get, until you have no hesitation in accepting and loving yourself from top to toe.
Now put the candle out, wrap yourself in your bathrobe and give yourself at least 20 minutes of indulgent ‘me time’. You might read a book, have a lie down, listen to some relaxing music, or sip a herbal tea.
By gifting yourself with this healing bath ritual you will feel calmer and more peaceful, more ready to engage positively with life's challenges.
*Please note that taking a hot bath with salt may be unsuitable for you if you are suffering from a medical health issue, or are pregnant. Please seek advice from a medical practitioner if you are uncertain.
If you are interested in essential oils I recommend Valerie Ann Worwood's books.
The Complete Book of Essential Oils and Aromatherapy: Over 600 Natural, Non-Toxic and Fragrant Recipes to Create Health Beauty a Safe Home Environment