Have you ever looked at a married movie or TV couple and seen your own marriage? Have you felt an “instant connect” with the couple being portrayed on the screen? It’s something we all do at one time or another.

Just for fun I chose a few favorite movie and TV couples with whom many people do, or would like to, identify. Which couple do you and your spouse most resemble?

Is your marriage like the sophisticated movie couple in the vintage “Thin Man" movies of the 1930’s and ‘40’s?

Nick and Nora Charles, seem almost perfect. They have everything a couple could want-money, charm, a beautiful place to live, world travel, and a “hobby” solving murders. As played by Myrna Loy and William Powell, they were witty, funny, in love, and sophisticated equals in the partnership of marriage.

Nora was a strong, independent woman who perfectly matched her “Nicky” in every way. The classic repartee between them is cleverly done even if the words tended to camouflage their most tender feelings towards one another. They respected each other and enjoyed being together.

Are Scarlett and Rhett are more like you and your spouse?

Love them or hate them, one of the most famous cinematic couples is Scarlett O’Hara and Rhett Butler. Their marriage may have been one of the saddest ones ever written, however. They never manage to be on the same page throughout their entire married life!

Though some people think they deserved each other, (both being a bit lax in the honorable department), the fact that they could never acknowledge that they loved one another makes for deep drama. Their conversations are like swordplay-they thrust, they parry; they jab at each other with sarcasm and pointedly barbed comments. Never, can either one of them, let down their guard and be vulnerable to each other. And Scarlett’s schoolgirl crush on Ashley? That ruins any hope for a real relationship with Rhett! Longing for one man while you’re married to another is immature and lacking in common sense.

Carmela and Tony?

Okay you don’t have to have wiseguy connections to be like Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Soprano.

Carmela takes care of the home front while Tony takes care of “finances.” They’re just your typical All-American couple, ensconced in a beautiful little mansion with expensive cars at their disposal. Let’s not forget to mention those fabulous meals prepared at home and at Artie’s.What a life!

They’ve gone through a lot in the relationship arena. Tony’s cheating on her is legendary, and Carmela has had "serious, sensual, day dream dalliances" of her own concerning Furio. But when it all comes down, you know very well that they will have each other’s back every time. Despite it all, they do love each other and heaven help anyone who hurts either one of them or... their family.

And speaking of family, how about Caroline and Charles Ingalls? Do you see you and your spouse as Ma and Pa Ingalls?

They loved each other and raised children in the hardscrabble life of a pioneer family. Their values and morals helped them survive the inevitable poverty of living on the prairie. They willingly sacrificed all for their family, and though some may see this as admirable, others see it as giving away their own life as a married couple. Still, moral convictions, love, and faith made their marriage strong. They were survivors.

The article began with one sophisticated couple and ends with another one. How many see themselves as the Harts in "Hart to Hart?"

Jennifer and Jonathan Hart are a more updated, loving version of Nick and Nora Charles. Without a doubt, you know these two are madly in love with one another. Despite living a very affluent lifestyle that includes a private jet and a “houseman” named Max, who takes care of everything for them, you always get the feeling that they would still be in love even if they lost it all.

Besides love, their marriage is built on mutual respect for each other. Jennifer’s work as a journalist is considered equally as important as what Jonathan does for a living; running a multi-billion dollar corporation!

And, sophistication aside, what makes them different from Nick and Nora is the fact that they don’t hide their love behind sophisticated word play. They show their affection freely and frequently.

Whichever couple you think mirrors you and your husband, remember, that the key ingredient in all these marriages, even the ill-fated union of Mr. and Mrs. Rhett Butler, is love. So, love your husband, love your wife, and write your script for a fun, happy, and loving marriage. Be the stars of your own story!


Sacred Jude in My Life, Miracles Abound!!