Guest Author - Lori Phillips
“The Big Book of Relationship Quizzes: 100 Tests and Quizzes to Let You Know Who's Who in Your Life” by Robin Westen
published by Black Dog & Leventhal Publishers, Inc. New York, NY
Maybe it’s innate curiosity, but we can’t resist quizzes that reveal hidden clues to our inner selves. If you love magazine quizzes, you’ve no doubt read the work of Robin Westen, an Emmy Award-winning daytime television writer, who has supplied quizzes for most of the women’s magazines including Cosmopolitan, Mademoiselle, Woman’s World, First and more. Many of her quizzes are syndicated worldwide.
Her latest book is a compilation of 100 tests that shed light on different facets of your personality and relationships. Some quiz titles are “Could an Affair Threaten Your Relationship?” “How Well Do You Know Your Mate?” “How Do You Relate to Others? The Answer is in a Box of Chocolates” and “Are You an Approval Junkie?”
Westen quotes research by relationship authors to introduce her quizzes but the questions and answers are decidedly for entertainment purposes only. You probably won’t find anything life-changing here, but you’ll probably enjoy passing some time taking a quiz. Quiz junkies will love having an entire book devoted to personality-revealing tests even if one or two seem dubious.
For example, one quiz is titled, “What Shape Don’t You Like?” I never thought about whether or not I liked or disliked a particular shape. I don’t have anything against any one shape, but if pressed I’d say the shape I like least would be the rectangle. According to Westin’s quiz on shapes, based on psycho-geometrics, I’m a decisive action-taker who “can survey a situation in the time it takes others to just see the problem.” True? Well, since it’s flattering, I’m more inclined to admit it. But what do I really have against rectangles? Do people really walk around with a grudge against triangles or squares?
But the other quizzes seem to draw rational correlations. Take one of her quizzes to see how accurate it is for you. Here’s one, printed with her permission:
“Who’s Your Fantasy Man?”
Married or single, we’ve all had harmless daydreams about being swept off our feet by one of Hollywood’s leading men. “The one you fantasize about can be quite telling,” says Sherry Amatenstein, author of The Q&A Dating Book: Answer to the Most Intimate Questions about Love and Romantic Relationships. “We’re attracted to celebrities who—on-screen and off—appear to have the qualities we value most in a real man,” she adds. So choose your Hollywood fantasy hunk, and learn what you most value in a real-life lover!
WILL SMITH: You like to laugh!
If Will Smith brings a dreamy smile to your face, “you believe a great sense of humor and a playful attitude are essentials for a happy relationship,” says Amatenstein. You like a guy who knows how to have fun just like Will. The paparazzi are always snapping shots of Will’s clowning around with his kids.
TOM CRUISE: You like a family man.
Despite his hunky glamour, Tom Cruise is devoted to his wife and children. And he tries to stay out of the Hollywood glamour loop as much as possible—forcing instead on his deeper calling. “If you’re turned on by Ton, what you value most in a man is loyalty to family; you want a traditional provider who will be in charge of making the big decisions—someone you can really count on,” says Amantenstein.
GEORGE CLOONEY: You like a charmer.
Other women might not miss it quite as much if it wanes, but you need romance. “Your priority is passion,” says Amantenstein. “And your real-life dream guy won’t let the two of you settle into ho-hum companionship. He’ll keep the spark alive!” she says.
BRAD PITT: You like them boyish.
Considered one of the sexiest stars around, Brad Pitt has an endearing side—vulnerable and boyish—that wins fans. “If Pitt’s your dream date,” says Amatenstein. “you love making a fuss over your man.” And his appreciative attitude keeps your relationship feeling fresh and new, even when you’re dealing with day-to-day hassles.