Guest Author - Sadiyya Patel
We like to be judged in terms of what we have accomplished in the human relationships department. Read this statement:
“I managed to get my client half of her husband’s properties overseas and alimony and child support payments of close to $250,000 a year plus the three cars, the country home, his art collection and half of his stocks.”
Compare the foregoing with this one:
“I didn’t really do anything special that I can be proud of, except perhaps provide adequately for my family and raise good children. Happily, they turned out to be well-abiding citizens and I guess that’s the best reward there is.”
In the first statement, we see shades of greed and materialism, in the second, humility and self-effacement. Who has made a genuine contribution for the betterment of society?
Much as it sounds terribly old-fashioned, marriage is a commitment, and individuals must make every attempt not to cheapen that commitment in any way. Staying married is a lifelong, missionary-like endeavor.
It takes guts. It takes nerves of steel to make a marriage work. A sense of humor and humility can sustain us in that work.
The obstacles will be numerous, and there will be situations where we will question our sanity, unsure if we can really hang in there.
It will be a monumental effort to remain attracted to the same qualities that attracted you to your spouse on the first day you met. Your spouse is still the same person you fell in love with, he has not changed his soul, his being, only his wardrobe.
So if there’s only way to divorce, but a thousand ways to save your marriage, which path will you choose? Are you going to throw in the towel or take up one more challenge?
The choice is up to you.
Recommended Marriage Saving Resources
Congratulations. You´ve completed the course. That was just the first step on the long journey to saving your marriage. I would like to recommend some additional resources that couples have found helpful and that may help you on a journey to a happier and more fulfilling marriage, too.
For anyone really serious about saving their marriage, I would highly recommend the Us Factor Program.
In The Us Factor® Program, you´ll discover that problems such as resentment,
distance, boredom and lack of communication are actually normal in marriage.
What you need are the skills to handle them. The Us Factor® gives you practical,
private solutions to the most common and difficult problems faced by couples today:
* Trust Issues
* Lack of Intimacy
* Headed for Divorce
* Spouse Won´t Change
* Constant Arguing
* Lack of Communication
* Not “In Love” Anymore
* Unresolved Conflict
* and more...