Guest Author - Sadiyya Patel
A specialist in human development and family studies from the University of Missouri discussed the impact of divorce on children, mentioning that how they react strongly and differently to their divorcing parents depends on their age.
* Infants: higher degree of irritability, more crying and fussing, changes in sleeping and eating habits.
* Toddlers: they recognize the fact that one parent is no longer living at home, they have a difficult time physically separating from a parent, may express anger, may lose some skills previously acquired like toilet training, going back to thumb-sucking, experience changes in sleeping patterns, may have nightmares.
* Pre-schoolers and early elementary age: may blame themselves for the divorce, may over-worry about changes in their lives, may exhibit sadness and grieving because of the absence of one parent, may be aggressive and violent to the parent they blame for the divorce, may fantasize about their parents getting back together.
* Pre-teens: may feel abandoned by the departing parent, may withdraw from friends and favorite activities, may exhibit strange behavior and use foul language, may feel angry and uncertain about their concepts of love, marriage and family, may feel that they are growing up too soon, and may find themselves preoccupied about their parentsí finances.
For more information on how divorce impacts kids, I suggest you read the following two books: