Guest Author - Grace D. Dooley

On the Large and Lovely site there is a book review of "This is who I am". There are ethnic women every where that are large and lovely. Size does not make you feel any less than a women than someone who is slim and small. Many ethnic and multiethnic women fall in between. But for those that are bothered by their size visit the Large and Lovely site edited by I am sure you will find something

Accepting yourself no matter who you are is key to ethnic beauty. Ethnic and multiethnic women must learn to accept and embrace themselves for who they are; the whole package. My point here is that if you don't like some thing about yourself, change it, if it's in your power. If it's something you can't change, accept it with humble grace. You are still alive.

We address beauty for all ethnic groups of women and being large is part of that beauty also. For some reason women of color have trouble accepting themselves on the beauty scale.

As I was talking to a friend one day we discussed why there's so much trouble with the color of skin among people. (Racism) My response to her was this:

Think about what the colors black, brown and tan signify. What do you see when you think about these color? What emotion is evoked when you say them? Black is associated with darkness, black magic, Halloween etc. To think of the color black as being beautiful isn't high on the list. Same as for the colors brown and tan. Grass turns brown representing death and decay. Trees shed their leaves in the winter. Brown and tan don't exactly jump up and say pick me!

So with this said I find it very ironic to talk about ethnic beauty and color association. This is the barrier that divides the races. So we must look deeper into ourselves and draw out, of ourselves, the beauty of our souls, minds and spirits. So when you do dress up the outside, your beauty is complete. You are created beautiful and as long as beauty is in the eye of the beholder you will always be beautiful. You are the beholder of your own beauty.

When writing for this site, topics such as self esteem and self-confidence comes into play. These 2 character traits are just as important to your beauty as a good skin routine is for anti aging. How we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us matters. That first impression is still the most important, it still matters. Learning to love yourself is part of your unique beauty. It is what distinguishes you as being uniquely you.

"This Is Who I am" from the Large and Lovely site says a lot about how we should see ourselves, our beauty and others different from us, for whatever reason.