Guest Author - Lori Phillips
Maybe it's you. The failed relationships, the office drama. The fact that your life is filled with conflict, setbacks and disappointments just might be your fault. A new ebook titled, "Stop Being a B-tch! You're Ruining Your Relationship" could help you face the brutal truth in order to help rehabilitate your inner b-tch and save your relationships.
Like a gentle slap in the face, the book features self-diagnostic quizzes like "Are You a B-tch?" "What Type of B-tch are You?" and even "Does He Think You're a B-tch But Doesn't Want to Tell You?" Each chapter outlines an archetypal b-tch, such as the Castrating B-tch, the Needy B-tch, and the Psycho B-tch along with 12 others. Although the author Lori Phillips has no formal counseling certification, she says she is a self-proclaimed ex-b-tch who wrote this book as a tongue-in-cheek way of getting people to take a good hard look at themselves before ditching their relationships. (If you've recognized that name, it's because it's me, the marriage editor for BellaOnline.com! Yes, this is blatant self-promotion!) But what started out as a humor piece turned into some sobering yet positive and empowering suggestions for men and women whose chronically rude attitudes and behaviors are at the root of their relationship problems. The use of censored expletives is only in reference to the b and a words; otherwise, there is no gratuitous use of profanity in the book.
"The term b-tch not only has shock value, there is no better word to define exactly what some of us have become," she said. "As an ex-b-tch, I have a lot of empathy for women who lash out. We are products of our genetics and life experiences. A lot of b-tches are self-protecting." According to the book, each b-tch type has its own unique characteristics and underlying beliefs. She also employs specific "weapons" in her b-tch arsenal. By becoming aware of these habits, she can adopt "better than b-tch" thoughts and use intervention strategies before slipping into b-tch mode. Each chapter also includes practice sessions for taming her inner beast and a vision of her new reality.
"There can be good reasons for b-tching, " she continued. "But knowing when to pull out your b-tch and when to tuck her away is the key to maintaining quality relationships." In fact, she believes that every woman has an inner b-tch and every man an a-hole. The Mama Bear B-tch, for example, is one every mother should take out of hibernation at the appropriate time.
The companion title "Stop Being an A-hole! You're Ruining Your Relationship!" is for him. Just in case it's not you, after all. Available now in print and instant ebook downloads for only 1.99 cents and $6.08.