Guest Author - April Alisa Marquette
How many times has someone gotten ready to take your photo and you've shied away? Perhaps you've said 'I don't photograph well,' or 'I never look right.' How many times have you seen a photo of yourself and thought, heck, everyone else looks great? Or have you told someone, 'You look fine, but I look fat?' If you've said or thought any of these things, you are not alone. Many people don't particularly like what the camera captures. However, I want to share something. The camera is not our enemy. Its lens simply captures and reflects back the image of what is present at a given time.
Many people my grandmother's age dissuade others from taking their photo. Why? Because many in our ancestral lines believe as my Grandma did... She did not want to be captured on film. Why? Because it was believed that for a one to capture your picture or your photo, your soul had to be captured. My friends, this quaint-sounding idea is correct, to some degree! The camera, with its non-judgmental eye, 'sees' us -- so to speak -- as we are, at the second of capture, and reflects back that very essence.
Often human eyes have been referred to as the windows or the mirrors of the soul. Why, because when one trully looks into another's eyes, many things may become evident, things like: sorrow, illness, or fatigue. When someone is in love with someone else, that too can be seen, when the one that loves lays eyes on their beloved. Eyes often alert others that one is thinking, or envisioning something. Have you ever heard the saying, 'It's all in the eyes?' Well, knowing these things, you can see that when the camera captures, it reflects back a portion of what one may be feeling or dealing with at the time, although many people project a smile, a false face.
I have a loved one who most often appeared stiff and rigid in photos. Close to this person, I knew this was an accurate assessment. The person had one set way of thinking, and refused to even consider other possibilities. I said that to say: if you appear heavy, unattractive, or whatever, in photos, even when others say you look fine, take another look -- not at the photo, but at your true self, look inward. Then gently ask why you feel that way. Be patient, as you allow your answer to come, and you may wind up surprised.
Quite possibly, you simply have a round or wide face or body, or maybe that 'heavy' or 'unattractive' business wasn't your idea, initially, but someone else's; perhaps a parent or a caregiver said it long ago. Maybe it was shouted, on a playground; whatever the case, when your answer arrives, begin to work on you, the real inside you, not the person that you project. Examine, and if necessary, re-align your core beliefs, about you. Allow your new beliefs and positive feelings to line up with how you desire to see yourself. Toss negative perceptions and forget demeaning words.
Short story, there was a man whose mother gave him gelatin when he was a kid. He never liked it, but he continued to eat it, even after he was grown. One day he realized he didn't have to. Then, he took a stand. He said, "No more gelatin for me, mom." That is what you can do. Take a mental stand. Work toward becoming the person you’d like to see and be. Become someone shining, smart, and at ease with who you are. Change, from the inside out. Then look for what the camera captures -- the photogenic lovely new you!
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