Guest Author - April Alisa Marquette
I happened to be watching a show I love, Dancing With The Stars, when a question formed... For those of you who also watch, you know that on the show we get to see the stars during their daytime hours, the hours when they sweat and work hard to learn and retain the steps of their up coming dance routine. Then when Showtime! rolls around, viewers get to see all the dancers (the stars and their teachers – the dancing professionals) in their lovely costumes and makeup. At this point in the show everyone's hair is perfectly coiffed, their nerves are seemingly under control, and what we also get to see is each star’s sexy quotient.
From watching the show one learns that in order for a dance routine to work, perfectly, and garner high marks in several categories, the dancers must have all of the above, and they must have chemistry -- that delectable little spark that takes them from being mediocre to extraordinary. During the rehearsals, it is often apparent which dancing couples have this, and which do not. It is shown in the way they relate to one another, the way they share a laugh in the midst of a particularly grueling sequence. Their sexy quotient -- whether or not they have chemistry -- is shown in the way the dancers speak to each other. If there is chemistry it can be seen in the way the couples bodies speak. Thus, noticing all of this brought me to my question, the one that I would like to ask you today.
What is your sexy quotient? Is it barely there, or is it something that is undeniable? Is it alluring and wispy, just a hint of a tease, or is your sexy blatant? Is it in-your-face visible and red hot? I ask this question because on the show, viewers get to watch the stars blossom. We get to see those who undoubtedly know their quotient and others who have not yet found theirs. We see people who are blossoming, and others who want to bloom, but feel as though they must mask this essential and beautiful part of themselves. Upon realizing that there are all of these levels of sexy, I began to notice other things, like there are people, young and old alike, who know they've got it going on. Then others would like to ‘wade in the water.’ However, due to onlookers -- namely family members, sometimes these people do not truly allow themselves to shine.
Today, ethnic beauties, I'd like you to think about your sexy quotient. And I’d like you to also imagine yourself having to step out of your comfort zone to do something scary. Yet imagine that you have been given all the tools to do this task. Now imagine having to do it before a huge audience. Imagine your name being called, before a spotlight is shined on you. Now see your friends and family members, they too are present. Will you give this performance your all, or will you hold a portion of yourself back -- that untamed part, because 'what will they think?'
Today, I ask, do you really care, that much? Or do you want to be free, free to be all that you can be? I ask because often if we're stuck or stymied in one area of our lives, this can become so in other areas. Why? Because of our beliefs about ourselves; now you see why I want you to ponder your sexy quotient. If you find that you’ve pressed yourself down, or you’ve let others flatten you, you have work to do. You will need to excavate a wonderful, fearless, and quite possibly sexy new you! Once uncovered, this person will become unstoppable, because principles transcend. You'll notice renewed determination, a new fearlessness -- and who'd have thought you'd get to it, by watching a little t.v. and knowing your sexy quotient?