Guest Author - Lauren DīSilva
Energy vampires aren't much discussed, but they do exist and can cause significant problems. If you feel drained by someone's presence it is likely they are drawing on your energy to feed their own system. Luckily you don't need to cut off their head & drive a stake through their heart to sort them out!
So what is going on here? Basically someone has learned to utilise other people's energies rather than draw on universal energy. Most 'vampires' don't even know they are doing it and don't behave like this all the time, although a minority will do this habitually and may even consciously use this ability.
Before you start getting angry realise that at some point in your life you will have innocently done a little energy-taking of your own, and often the 'donors' will have given more than willingly. For example when you were a child & you were poorly you will have had a natural pull on your parents' energies and they will have let you have all the energy they could supply. This is why it is oh so tiring when family members are ill!
To a certain extent supporting each other with energy is natural and healthy. In a well-balanced relationship the energy exchange is reciprocal and each person will give and take as needed. Things go out of balance though when one person is just taking & the other just giving, particularly if the donor is allowing their own reserves to be drained rather than channelling universal energy.
Then there are the real life vampires that stalk the streets and the internet...
My personal physical experience of a chronic energy vampire was a local woman who used to fix me with her eyes, which were oddly hollow looking. You could almost feel the energy being sucked away. She also had a way of standing too close, so that she was right in your energy field & drawing off you. As you backed off she moved closer! A brief encounter with her left you feeling exhausted.
People don't have to be physically present to draw on you. The telephone gives a strong enough link to begin the drain. Ever come off the phone from someone feeling worn out? Does that happen every time you speak to that particular person?
Unfortunately in this world of global communication energy vampires don't even need to know you. The Internet and email are modern ways to sap energy. Use your intuition. If someone gives you a bad feeling on a forum or by email don't respond, best not to even read what they are saying. Some people will jump up and down & say provocative things to try to get your attention; if you give them nothing in return they are rendered powerless & will have to go elsewhere for their fix.
So what strategies can you use? Firstly if you don't need to have the individual in your life and they have no legitimate claim on your time or energy you should simply avoid them as much as possible. However some people, those we live with, work with, or care for, do have a place in our lives. That is not the same as giving them the right to pull endlessly on your energies.
Knowing where your energy is leaking off to is the first step in solving the problem. To check if someone is potentially feeding off your energy ask yourself:
-Do I feel tired after spending time with this person?
-When I think of this person does my energy lift or fall?
-Does this person wheedle their way into my thoughts and/or my dreams even when I don't want to be thinking or dreaming of them?
I teach my therapy students to sit at an angle with clients rather than facing them. We are usually dealing with people whose energy systems are depleted in some way and they will try to make up the shortfall. This way we can't be drained so easily. When we are face to face the chakras are lined up and it is easy to draw on someone. If you work with people you could try the same.
Keep a bowl of crystals by the phone & fiddle with them when you are talking, or have a paper pad & doodle away. Having a slight distraction protects you from giving that person all your attention and energy.
To support depleted family members, friends & clients, learn to channel universal energy. Rather than have them take it out from your energy reserves imagine light flowing through your crown and down though your arms, out of your hands to them. This is simple healing. Make sure you are grounded.
Know where your boundaries are & protect them. If someone tries to trespass and does not belong in your life you are in your rights to cut them off. Visualise a clear edge to your aura and cover it with a protective coating- whatever feels right to you- armour, a reflective shell, a cloak. Ensure that your intention is to allow positive energy through & to keep your energy safe.
If you find you are struggling with energy drains that you can't resolve for yourself I offer a distant healing service and my partner Steve removes unhelpful energy attachments from a distance. You can contact us through Entity Removal.
There is a wealth of advice on protecting yourself in Caitlin Matthews' book: