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Respecting Your Son's Privacy


Most parents, especially todayís parents, want to respect their sonís privacy. While there are some parents who have unfettered access to their sonís room, email, and school locker, there are far more who genuinely want their sons to feel as if they have a certain expectation of privacy. For many families, this setup works just fine. A motherís son tells her enough to keep her satisfied that she is filled in on his life and that he is in no danger. He answers her questions truthfully when asked. Both parties are content with the arrangement.

But what if this arrangement doesnít describe your relationship with your son? What if your son tells you nothing about his friends, school, where he is going at night, or how heís doing in general? Do you have the right to violate his privacy and try to find out these answers on your own? Does a child have any expectation of privacy in his parentsí home?

When trying to decide whether or not to, for lack of a better word, snoop into your sonís life, keep three things in mind. First, assuring your sonís safety is one of your paramount responsibilities as a parent. If you have any doubts at all about whether your son is doing something dangerous, it is not only appropriate for you to try to find out what it is, it is imperative.
Second, if you have suspicions that your son is doing something illegal (which, by definition, is dangerous), you are similarly obligated to find out what it is. Searching your sonís bedroom, reading his texts and emails, and surreptitiously talking to his friends are all entirely acceptable actions when you are trying to protect your son (and others). Sometimes, merely letting your son know that you know what he is up to is enough to get him to open up to you.

Third, carefully consider your motives before your invade your sonís privacy. Mere curiosity is probably not the best reason to jeopardize your relationship with your son. Some teenagers are naturally more closemouthed than others. That reticence does not necessarily mean that they have anything to hide. If you really want to find out what is going on in your sonís life, be there for him if he wants to talk, but try not to push him. For the most part, a parent knows her childís personality better than anyone else. Youíll be able to tell when or if you need to delve further into your sonís private life.

The topic of teenage privacy can be a polarizing one. Some parents feel that they should not violate their sonís privacy under any circumstances, both for reasons of principle and for fear of losing his trust forever. Other parents feel that a teenager should have no expectation of privacy while living in the family home. Most parents tend to take the middle ground, respecting their teenís privacy until they are given reason to doubt him.

As in all things, common sense is the best guide in parenting. You know your son. Realize that sometimes violating his privacy serves the greater good (his safety) in the end, but that it should not be done without due consideration beforehand.
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