Guest Author - Pam Garlick

I looked at the calendar and realized tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. In the midst of unpacking from our move, preparing for another surgery, and feeling gloomy as I saw from my window that the snow was turning to an icy mix, I took time to actually pause from my moment of self-pity.

Tomorrow is a day for lovers, I thought, also wondering when was the last time I made my husband feel like he was loved. Surely not since the hectic pace of our move. Maybe not even before that as we packed and prepared our other house for sale.

I know my husband is certain of my love. Still, I also know it is important that I show him how much I love him. It can be in the little things I do, like scratching his back. – Oh how he loves that. – Or, it can be in the way I give him my full attention as he tells me about his day.

There are many simple things to do that when combined will provide my husband with even more evidence of how much I really do love him. I’m passing along my list hoping sharing it with you will help make your valentine know he or she is loved and that they will make your Valentine’s Day just a little sweeter.

1. Hide the TV remote control and put on some soft music instead.
2. Light some candles and dim the lights.
3. Cook his or her favorite meal and serve it on a table set for Royalty.
4. Smile, make eye contact and listen more than you speak over the meal.
5. Skip the dishes and suggest a nice bath.

NOTE: Not many tubs are large enough for two adult people – that’s only on TV. But I’ve found giving one another a bath separately is a sensual experience. Each one gets some special attention.

6. If you aren’t ready for bed at this point you could read some romantic poetry, but if you’re aren’t into that, I suggest some TV.

NOTE: You are probably better off not watching news, it is depressing and will ruin everything you’ve strived for. Sports may raise the adrenaline of your partner, but the length of a game may diminish some of the mood you’ve already started. Besides adrenaline fades quickly. A romantic movie is good, preferably not a bang, bang, shoot-um-up. I’ve found a nice romantic comedy will keep spirts high, continuing the romantic mood.

7. Cuddle while watching the movie. Touching is okay, but don’t get too carried away yet.

8. Have a glass of wine or a cup of tea, whichever you prefer.

NOTE: Don’t overdue either. A little goes a long way where a lot can create less desirable results.

9. Suggest a massage. There are many massage oils on the market, scented and even flavored.


10. At this point let your instincts be your guide.


Yes, it is definitely time for me to practice what I preach. I'll start planning tommorrow night now.

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