Every time you look at your son you picture him in his one piece pajamas and that beautiful angelic smile on his face. Or perhaps you see him in his over sized cowboy boots, a diaper and a cowboy hat. How sweet. How adorable. Nothing can be more precious than that little boy.

Sure you have had some rough times with him in school. His spelling grade wasn’t up to par even though he promised you he studied. And sure his math homework was all done, yet the teacher said he had five assignments missing. But all in all, he’s a sweet kid and a good boy.

You have raised him believing in your beliefs, your morals, and your ethics. You have taught him the dangers of smoking, drugs, drinking, and indiscriminate sex. He has listened to you, hung on every word. You are sure that you have done all you can to bring up a good, safe, well behaved young man.

One night after being out with friends, he comes home, trying to avoid you to say goodnight. He usually never avoids giving you a quick peck on the cheek and head off to bed, but tonight is different. The first night it happens, you might just brush it off. The next night he does it, you investigate. You are shocked to smell cigarette smoke on his clothes and his breath. When you question him about it he tosses it off as being around his friends that smoke.

There comes a night when you wait up for him, and his goodnight kiss smells like alcohol. It could be beer, or it could be something stronger. Now what? How do you handle this? Surely your son wouldn’t do this after all the lectures the two of you have had. But it happens. How did he get home? Is he old enough to drive? Did he drive home impaired? Did he ride home with someone else who is impaired? Those are thoughts that send nightmares directly to a parent’s sleep.

Each family has their own rules and regulations what they approve of as far as smoking, drinking,and marijuana is concerned. It is not my job to preach to established families on the cons of allowing your son to smoke or drink. It is my job to lead you to sources that may be able to help you if you do not approve of your son doing these things. If you find his cigarettes, throw them away. Lock up the alcohol if you have any in the house. If you find marijuana paraphernalia around, throw it away, flush the drugs. Don’t make it easy for him to purchase any new materials.

Here are some links that may help you start the process of talking to your son about drugs, smoking and alcohol.

Best wishes and prayers for you on your journey to help your son.

Smoking Cigarettes:
http://www.eagletribune.com/pulife/local_story_326120828.html?keyword=secondarystory
http://www.cig-arette.com/testimonials.html
http://www.lungusa.org/site/c.dvLUK9O0E/b.39870/k.418F/NotOnTobacco.htm

Alcohol:
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/addictions/alcohol/273.html http://www.ctpta.org/legislative/teen_drinking.htm
http://www.stopalcoholabuse.gov/parents.aspx ***GREAT site!

Marijuana:
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Quit-Smoking-Weed---You-Can-Quit-Smoking-Pot-Forever&id=850665
http://www.ehow.com/how_2141781_quit-smoking-marijuana.html

*****Although I have read these web sites, I have never tried or used any of the products that they may advertise. In fact, I have chosen NOT to include web sites that ask you to purchase anything. By time you read this the web site, it might have changed.*****************