Guest Author - Susan Kramer

Communication is basic in relationships. We need to be able to ask for what we need in a way that does not offend others. We need to be able to survive in this give and take world. And good communication skills make our days richer and fuller.

Did you ever ask yourself what good communication skills are?

Attitudes influence thoughts, and with an attitude of kindness the best thoughts and subsequently the best words come at the appropriate moment in all interactions.

Kindness is the key that opens the door to friendliness. With a friendly attitude others are not put off when we make a request. If they truly feel our warmth they may even go the extra mile to help us.

Meditation is a time that we can quietly reflect on the methods that help us communicate the most effectively.

Meditation is a time to sort out the dross from the day and plan actions that will help us communicate and reach our goals - whether it be with family, friends, or in the work world. Everywhere we are, whatever we do requires easy and effective communication skills.

When doing a sitting or walking meditation begin with a few rounds of regular even breathing such as breathing in two counts; breathing out two counts; breathing in 2 counts - continuing along in this even pattern without actually saying the numbers. Rather, that is the breathing rhythm to maintain.

Thoughts and actions are tied by breath. When we are overexcited or upset we feel agitated and breathing is irregular; we may not be thinking clearly. By consciously coordinating breathing into a regular and even in and out pattern, thoughts and body both calm.

Now, in your sitting or walking meditation spend some minutes reflecting on how kindness sets the scene for easy and effective communication. Reflect that when you feeling the positive emotion of kindness you are not likely feeling selfish.

Eliminating selfishness in communication opens the door for a win-win result for both.

Replacing selfishness with kindness is more effective, because it is an easier way of getting what you need or want - again, others are more willing to help, rather than wanting to invent excuses to get away from you and avoid further communication.

Finish your meditation with the firm resolve to replace a selfish agenda with kindness and friendliness in communication. This is a skill that really benefits from using meditation time to reflect upon and rehearse for your own situations.

Article and photo credit by Susan Kramer

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